They find the sweetest parts of us,
One thing that I cannot stand about this "inspiration culture" that millennials have created is that we beautify healing. My generation has made everyone (mostly each other, really) believe that it’s so easy to heal. While it’s liberating to finally be rid of something terrible that consumed your life for so long, it’s also extremely brutal to recover and stay disconnected from it. For me, it’s so weird to not live in the extreme anymore because that used to be my entire life. At one point, I dedicated myself to it. Now, I’m out and away from it, but I’m still trying to process all of it. I'm still trying to recover.
Gillette came out with a new ad the other day… and it’s driving people completely up the wall. It focused on the fact that toxic masculinity is still a huge issue and that if we want the future generation of men to be great, we need to stop excusing bad behavior. It doesn't mean that all men physically, sexually, or even verbally attack each other, but a lot of men do sit back and do nothing. That in itself is toxic masculinity and it adds to the problem. They pointed out that there’s still a huge issue with this domino effect of bullying, harassment, and blatant sexism and their message is that men can do better. That they don't need to act like this and they need to stand up to the ones that do. It shows that men also need to teach little boys who are going to be the men of tomorrow to always act decent, responsible, and not like animals. To always do the right thing even when it's not exactly easy or convenient.
So you’ve made it into the stripping world, but you’re still a newbie. You’ve been on the floor and stage hustling as hard as you can, however something isn't clicking. Or you just want to be more aware of the business and how to adapt. So if you want to improve or just want some extra pointers, here are some things to help you out.
Last summer when I got fired from my job as a server, I was restlessly searching for another one; not only in the food industry but the retail one too. I was searching for anything I could get my hands on, but I decided to branch out. I thought that maybe I should get back into sex work, just in case. I wasn't aware of phone sex and filming being options at the time, so I decided to check out the closest strip club I knew. See, I’ve been dancing for years and at the time I really didn’t want to go back, personally because I was still burnt out from doing it a year before that. However, I wasn’t going to turn down a possible opportunity to make money the best way I knew how. I’m a veteran stripper, I’ve been in several clubs. I’m a money maker. I’m a business woman. I know what I'm doing.
Say that you’re broke and want to help out to support your favorite sex worker. You can’t afford her content right now, but you still want to make sure she’s got the support she deserves in another way. We get it. Finding other ways to supports us is not an excuse to not pay, but in one way or another, you can at least do something else. We’ve all just wanted to be support to our favorite people—whether they be sex workers, musicians, artists, writers, etc. The entertainment business can be a real bitch, but a lot of us are actually insanely grateful for any support that we can get. Any little bit helps, honestly. So where does one begin? Well, here’s some ideas to use if you have no clue—and also, to teach other people to do the same!