Agender sex and kink educator, with a penchant for nerdy things that make me think.
Kanojo Mo Kanojo
The vast majority of the time, we see concepts of polyamory in media being a sexual device and not much else. We see one aspect that is possible in ethical nonmonogamy, rather than the full breadth of topics present, the obstacles, or anything else involved. And that's without coming across the ideas of secrecy, cheating, and unhealthy behaviors.
As a young adult, I found myself taking pride in how much I could do. I had, and have a lot of domestic skill, and can juggle a lot of things at once, where loved ones have more than once commented on how I tend to thrive when taking on the stress of others. I was very open about how I showed care and love through acts of service, and while I didn’t want to be ordered around constantly, I was happy being asked to do things, and getting them done quickly and efficiently.
Let's talk about something we're going to visit a lot in the coming months. A broad topic, and in fact an entire genre of anime that may be popular, but is riddled with issues. I could honestly probably build a full regular blog off of everything here, but instead, we'll cover just a few aspects.
We've covered fetishization here before, and how it can affect society negatively, even when it's presented in a lighthearted way. Occasionally though, we find things that are probably supposed to sexualized, but wind up being rather affirming, and this time, it has to do with gender.
The Fear of Something Healthy
I’m standing in my boyfriend’s bedroom, looking out the window at the street and neighbors. I had to grab my jewelry, and finish putting myself together to go and run some errands, when that little voice pops up in the back of my head. Something that popped up so many times early on, and still does now. Speaking, screaming, whispering, all telling me to run. Trying to cram that voice down, my partner enters the room to collect his things so we can leave, and we hug like we always do, before heading out. Over the next few moments it fades, and I feel safe again, but that feeling never lasts forever.
Say "I Love You"
Every so often, I manage to stumble upon a gem that is far deeper than it seems to be. Even more than things like Vermeil in Gold, which hits me out of nowhere, this one looked promising, but was far more thorough in its message than I would expect out of a single season of anything. With trends in anime still looking more at action series, this one was certainly a diamond in the rough.
Vermeil in Gold
When I started watching this anime, I expected something fairly predictable. A fantasy school with some lewd themes, and an awkward protagonist. Just before I started this show, I had abandoned one fairly similar, because it had nothing compelling to it. This one however, brought enough that not only did I finish it, but teared up a few times by the end.
Trigger and Spoiler Warning: If you happen to have trouble with themes of sexual assault, parental abuse, coercion, trauma management, and suicide, you may want to skip this post, as well as the anime series for Higehiro. Yes, that's a lot. We get heavy today.
Hajimete no Gal
Sometimes when you go to watch something a little more digestible than what I talked about last time, you get a pleasant surprise. What is supposed to be a silly, light-hearted anime winds up covering some more serious, and important topics that we don't often see in media. That being said, if what we talk about here does look interesting, be warned that some parts of this anime are also many worlds of not okay, so we're gonna throw a content warning on the series for pedophilia due to a side character being a creep.
With how popular this series has been, it should come to no surprise that I would get to it eventually. I was honestly worried about it conceptually when it was first being announced, but it's wound up being quite a bit different from how it was initially posed to be. From first glance, it looked like a demeaning show that glorified bullying, and tried to make such things look humorous. It may start out that way, but quickly makes a great turn.
The Privilege of Passing
A couple walks down the street, hand in hand. They’re giggling, hugging, and engaged in the moment. While it may look like a normal, healthy, heterosexual couple from the outside, they’re anything but that. What you don’t see under that exterior, is all the issues that occur within a queer existence, and the teamwork it takes to tackle them, while still trying to look acceptable. In LGBT spaces, we can risk looking foreign, unwelcome, or like we’re not queer enough, and wind up ostracized despite very much fitting within the group.
Bottom Tier Character Tomozaki
This month, I want to talk about two anime I finally got to watching recently that upon watching the first episode, I noticed a lot of the same bones to the concept, but as I watched through, realized that the difference in genre lead to them going in opposite directions of the same root ideas. They're both interesting in their own way, but it entirely depends on what you're looking for in a series.