Shadows: Hard Changes: Part 3 of Becoming a House Parent
When we arrived back at the house, it was dimly lit, deathly quiet…... no one home. Before climbing the stairs to the front room, I opened the door to the Dorm…. It was empty, where were my boys? I thought for a second…. Wondering…. I really didn’t know what to think. I was still dumbfounded by the accident, and meeting Tommy’s Grandmother. this had never happened to me before in the 27, what REALLY seemed like now, ‘very short years ‘of my life.
Shadows: with great love comes great pain: Part 2 Becoming a House Parent
Because of this great job, I was able to truly feel like a mom. I was spending precious time with my own children I didn’t have so available when I was working as Nurse. I didn’t have to leave any of them and be gone all day or sometimes all night, be called in on my day off because we were short staffed, stay over 16 hours for the same reason, work on holidays or choose which holiday I wanted off and hope I was able to get it, I didn’t have to wear a uniform or have special equipment like my stethoscope, drive my car every day, just to go to the store or appointments and I was getting to cook all the time, I loved that a lot! It was worth it to me to take a lesser paying job with all these precious benefits.
Shadows of loving the unlovable: Becoming a house parent
My three children were still youngsters when I made the decision to deviate from Nursing for a while. I wanted to spend more time with them while they were still small. I was the one who worked, my first husband, Dale, their father, stayed home with them. He didn’t have a trade and had difficulty finding a job, so we traded places. Plus, I was paid better.
Shadow of Concern; My first Convalescent Hospital.
In those early years, Convalescent Hospitals, now called Extended Care Facilities, were run differently than they are today. In those years, the Ombudsman program was very new or unknown. There weren’t any signs posted with the phone number for help in the facilities like they are today. No one ever discussed this service with me at that time. The C.N.A.’s had much heavier assignments than they do today. The Residents seemed to decline quicker. If the Resident refused to eat, they were to be forced-fed with a large (60 cc or 2 ounce) syringe, for example.
Shadow of Responsibility; Nursery Charge Nurse
I enjoyed working in the Nursery with the babies. However, in those days we only had one Nursery for all the babies. Today there is the Critical Care Nursery, the intermediate Nursery, and the Newborn Nursery. In our Nursery, however, we had them all. Healthy babies, premature babies AND physically challenged babies like the one born with a Myelomeningocele on her low back.
This book is being dedicated to my now deceased husband Andy Pavlos who inspired me. We had gone to the long-term care facility to drop off a present for the elderly. Our volunteers at the hospital put up a Christmas tree every year with candy canes and a tag with a number. assigned to a Resident. the public is then encouraged to take a cane and return with a gift before the Resident's Christmas Party.