I need lots of external validation to keep myself going each day.
Why the Orgasm Gap Is Actually Great News for Straight Women
We don’t have orgasm equality. The plight of the straight woman reaching climax is a tale as old as time itself. At least as old as social media itself. The discourse surrounding the elusive woman’s orgasm usually landed on gay women. Women who sleep with other women have been the gatekeepers of women’s sexual pleasure for a long time.
An Open Letter to the Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents
Dear “kids”, When did you realize you weren’t the problem? In therapy, I described living at home as living with a bear. A dormant bear. The only thing separating us was a flimsy wooden fence. A fence even the most delicate bear could easily hit down. The only way I could keep myself safe from the bear was to stay away from it. Far away from the fence. Be undetectable. Invisible.
What It’s Like Auditioning For A Modeling Agency at 16
There’s a deeply ingrained part of our culture that’s made attractiveness synonymous with all that is pre-pubescent. The most attractive qualities in women are being small, soft, “innocent” and hairless. Essentially, we’re at our best when we’re children. When we’re sixteen. Being judged on your body before it’s finished growing has its own individual, but expected, effects on your sense of self. What I didn’t anticipate is how long they’d last.
The Cult of Creativity
In the design industry, especially throughout school, we’re not encouraged to separate design from the rest of our lives and personalities. Once you begin working in UX design or tech in general, this lack of separation becomes normal and praised.
I’m (Mostly) Glad I Didn’t Die
Television and books have made death seem far too simple. It's incredibly difficult to force your body to give up. I don't recommend trying it. You'll likely give yourself an aggravating injury at best, a lifelong impediment at worst. Which, you really don't need. "Shoot for the moon," they'd said, "if you fail you'll land amongst the stars." In this case, you'll land amongst the rest of the "failures" in your city.
An Open Letter To the Kids Who Raised Themselves
I’d been lying to my therapist for a while, and it was a stupid thing to do. Why on earth would you think it makes sense to lie to someone you’re paying to listen to you. She was a great therapist, and I wanted so desperately to open up about everything. But, it’s hard. And I’d never had the practice.
Why you shouldn't become a UX Designer
I'll preface this by saying UX is a great field. There’s a lot of potential to grow as a person, a creative and problem solver. That being said, I’ve been thinking a lot more about why some people probably shouldn't work in this industry.
To Increase Your Productivity, Avoid These 3 Things
We spend a lot of time fighting with ourselves. To do more, do better, work more, work harder, you name it. We’ve all looked up “How to be successful” or “How to be more productive” type content online. I know I have.
Five Biggest Changes I’ve Noticed Since Starting Therapy
Therapy is a bit like military training. You reap the benefits long after you’ve started. The journey’s lengthy. I’m not sure if therapy is a process of finding, becoming, or saving yourself. It’s likely all of the above. Or maybe none at all.