Moving out of the U.S.
Over the past few weeks, my fiance and I have talked about numerous places that we would like to live and buy a home to begin our future. At first it was like Florida, California, and New York. However, after doing a ton of research non of them gave us the choices and kind of lives we were so desperately seeking. At that point we began to talk about countries outside of the U.S. that we could be truly happy in and still afford to actually live. That list came down to two options England and Scotland. We took an afternoon and focused on research such as job opportunities, housing costs, laws, and finally what it would take to not only get visas but also citizenship within both of these countries.
Book Series That I am Hooked On
1. A Shade of Vampire by Bella Forrest I am always a huge fan of vampire books especially when there is a love story thrown in there. However so far I am book 5 of this series and there are so many plot twists and the author really makes you feel a connection with each character. If you like supernatural books with a romantic touch this is a series you should definitely try.
One step forward and Two steps back
I know that everyone has heard the phrase “One step forward, two steps back”. Well lately that phrase alone explains my life. To be honest, I am struggling. I am at the point in my life where I thought I would be settled down, with kids, a stable job, finishing or finished with college, and a sense of stability. However, I am in the middle of a divorce, I only have visitation of my kids, I am about 1/3 of the way done with my bachelor’s and still need to get my Masters degree. There is no stability in my life. In fact, or the last 4 years more life changing thing shave happened then I would really like to admit. Is this the new normal for my generation? I am not sure. I look at my aunts, uncles, parents, and even grandparents and I see marriages that have lasted twenty plus years and how settled they were at such a young age. Then I look at my life and the lives of my friends. I just cannot seem to figure out if it is something that we are doing wrong or if it is the way of the world now days. This year alone, I have personally heard from friends and family or more than 4 divorces and for the friends that chose to date or stay engaged for the last 5-7 years: break-ups. I wish I had the answers. I wish that I knew how to be that stable and happy women I dreamed of being as a kid. Right now, all I am is a struggling adult who puts on a happy and confident face more than 85% of the day. I am sure that at least some of you know how that feels and please if any of you know the answers feel free to share.
The Different Forms of Pain
Everyone goes through pain in their life. It could be heartbreak, loss, abuse, or even mental pain from the ones that we think are our friends or family. In an average life, a person will deal with at least two of these. Personally, I have dealt with them all, and although that sounded like bragging, it wasn't.
My Road to Divorce Part 2
A lot has changed since I wrote my last post. After leaving in January, my life had more ups and downs than I could have ever expected. To this day, I am still not divorced, mostly do to financial needs. I have moved back into the same town as my ex. For months we lived as roommates and tried to get along, thinking it was best for our kids. I watched him date and try to rebuild his life. Some parts didn't hurt me. Others made me feel like I was not worth very much. You would expect jealousy and pain from being close to him and not having him, but that is not what I experienced. To be honest, the biggest thing that hurt me is seeing him do amazingly sweet or romantic things for other women that he never once did during our seven years of marriage. The worst part, though, was him thinking that because we were now friends, that he could tell me all of these built up secrets about the time we were together and married that were horrible. Such as having crushes on other females, flirting, dreaming, and even wanting them in a sexual way while we were together. In the last month, I have moved into my own place and see my children as much as I can. I am preparing all of the paperwork and knowledge I need to file for divorce. The hardest thing I am doing though is playing nice.
My Road to Divorce Part 1
No one goes into a marriage hoping for it to end or even expecting it to end. At least not when you are getting married for love. So when it does end it stings, breaks, devastates, and shocks. This was me. When I got married I had seen marriages be torn apart, I had seen the fighting and the hatred that came from something that was originally so beautiful. I went in thinking that our love would over come it all and made sure everyone knew that I was marrying for life no matter what happened. That was about 5 and 1/2 years ago.
Most Anticipated Movies of 2018
There are a lot of really good movies expected to come out in the upcoming year of 2018. Below is a list of the most anticipated movies coming out. Whether they have been expected since I was a kid or the first one was so good that people are truly excited for a sequel.
The Promise of Job Placement
With the way that the economy is right now in the US, going to school is no longer enough to guarantee a job once you have graduated. It is all about experience, references, education, and connections. Having just one of these four things is not enough, having two is rarely enough. Because of this fact, when college kids choose a college, a lot of them have begun looking at schools with job placement assistance for their graduates. I know I did when I chose my college. The problem is job placement is not guaranteed, no matter what their supposed success rate with it is, and there is a lot of small print attached to it that they do not disclose.