Love, sex, and everything in between
Let's Talk About: Anal Sex
Oh, boy. Anal sex. It's sort of terrifying to think about, isn't it? My own personal experience with the act was, up until recently, quite limited. I never felt particularly open to the idea, nor curious to try it with any of my partners. In fact, if any of them made any attempt to initiate anal play in any sense (even if just with a finger), I was very quick to shut them down.
What's Your Number? #5
I didn't stay in residence while I went to university, but I did inevitably end up in a dorm room once or twice. What is about post-secondary education that makes us all turn into reckless, uninhibited sex addicts? You can lie and say you weren't one of those and maybe I'll believe you. But in my experience, it's those college years that bring out the little slut in all of us. Is it a bad thing? Of course not. But there's a reason all the welcome packages you receive in university include at least one condom. We all know what goes on in those dorms. I lived off campus but I sure managed to find out for myself.
What's Your Number? #6
Do you remember your first love? I'm talking about real love here. I've made the mistake in the past of thinking something was love when it was truly the opposite (see: What's Your Number? #10). I've also tried to convince myself something was love when I knew in my heart it really wasn't (see: What's Your Number? #9). This sort of love that I'm writing about today is the real deal, guys. That mushy, heart-pounding, cheeks-hurt-from-smiling-so-much kind of love that doesn't come around too often. The kind of love you imagined when you first heard that one Taylor Swift song (I don't know, just pick one).
What's Your Number? #7
Wanna hear about the first time I actually had an orgasm with a guy? Read on. If you came here looking for exceptionally awkward, embarrassing, or otherwise unremarkable sex stories, please kindly review the previous three installments in my "What's Your Number?" series. If you're here for something a little different, I'm happy to report this is where it starts to get good.
What's Your Number? #8
Jordan was a mistake; a mistake I made several times. He was also completely wrong for me in every possible way a person can be. And although I was fully aware of this, I still found myself going back to him again and again and again. What started out as a one-time hookup somehow managed to turn into a shameful friends-with-benefits situation that lasted a couple months (my first and only one of those, by the way).
What's Your Number? #9
This was a hard one to write. Not because it's hard to admit Peter is #9 on this list. But because it's hard to talk about him without delving into our relationship and I just don't have the time or energy to do that. So let's just focus on the sexual aspect (the dirty details, if you will) and we'll skip all that other stuff.
What's Your Number?
A friend of mine asked me what my “number” was the other day. Let me just start by saying I really don’t like this question. I mean, I don’t mind it so much if a friend asks. But if I’m with a guy and he casually asks how many other people I’ve slept with, it’s just immediately so off-putting for me. Do you know what that means? That means he actually cares. He wants to hear the answer. A high number, a lower number — whatever he’s waiting for, he has an answer already in his mind and he wants to see whether you meet, exceed, or completely fall short of his expectations. If he cares enough to ask, that means he cares enough to be upset, should you give him the wrong response. And that’s just not okay with me.