Welcome to the ‘couples enrichment’ workbook! Guaranteed to improve your communication, enhance your intimacy and expand your sexual horizon.-when you do the Love Work ~Kay
What's a relationship without intimacy? Truth is nothing. The relationship/marriage would never make it without intimacy being present. There are 5 types of intimacy: Emotional, Physical, Sexual, Spiritual and Intellectual. Most of us just simply see intimacy as two units emotional and physical. Learning now there's 5 different types I'm sure you never put that into perspective. So if we really think about any of these types being absent in a relationship can you understand why it wouldn't last or you could stay together and be "stuck" is also a choice many couples deal with. They choose to live that way that is so unhealthy for yourselves and those around you seeking out a ridiculous lie! Being an intimacy coach this is what I see all to much in my clients whether their sexless, "stuck", their too broken. I hear every excuse in the book but the one I'm really there to teach and coach about. Fighting for your relationship be reclaiming your love life and seeing that you truly deserve happiness. My clients rather stay miserable and live that way then engage in a way that could fix the problem if some effort and dedication went into the actual relationship itself. Regaining that spark back is hard I get it but also letting it go is not somehow going to fix anything either. With time the problems and resentment just builds to new level of no return or you have the participants not wanting to even try and consider saving it. It's the last option they have in mind until they come and see me. Reigning intimacy isn't easy but here are just a few examples:
I'm actually a relationship coach. I worked for Pure Romance previously for the past 4 years and started to steer in my own direction. Due to my own experience with the company and how sexist they were against MEN just didn't make no sense to me. So, I also had many issues arising in my own relationship of 7 years and 2 children that I could no longer bear with intimacy issues. Being a 26-year-old mother, with a fiancé', that has 6 years on me, I felt very insecure of being inexperienced. I have insecurities just about my body imagine in general. Judging every edge of my figure I could. So, during sex I was more than just a "Plain Jane", more like a one-sided run way if you say. Knowing that I WASN'T that I wasn't making love back to my fiance' and eventually having that being brought up in a huge fight stating that I was just a "DEAD FISH" FINALLY CAME OUT OF HIS MOUTH!! His deep frustrated voice of disgust made me realize how lazy I was really being as a wife & a lover...and I really thought I was doing it for him just by laying there and having him do all the work....I mean he still orgasm-ed.?!! That wasn't the point, me being so stuck in my insecurities of not fully forgiving the guys that raped me at 16 was mostly, if not all, the WHOLE problem! Being so confused on why I couldn't let go of something I thought I got through years ago took some months to figure out why my sex life wasn't where it should be. And figuring out how on earth I would even get to a beginning stages of when you first meet someone was forever far from my reach, it seemed.
Millennial's Revive Love & Hardships
Millennial have faced such a hard generation of upbringing. Not only were we born into the booming technology but, our interaction with humans has pitted in a black hole of understanding humanity. We specialize in distraction and selfish desires that only are available through a button of a screen. We don't take time to appreciate real life of nature, family and friends and what loved ones really mean to us. We take charge of being to busy for that type of interaction, we rather have a computers take on our business and jobs of hard work. We turned to the machine of a robot to dictate our lives into making them better without minimum effort. The video games, social media (Facebook, Instagram, Snap chat) were so focused on what the world thinks of our skills, personalities that it takes a toll on us. The competition of whose the best human. Turning against each other instead of coming together like a unit and making rational decisions. Making way for the new world to bring better things is just creating the future of disaster and self-pity of ourselves that were learning to not love ourselves anymore. Therefore nobody else for that matter. Slowly craving in and being sucked slowly threw a black hole of which we call society. In new ways of living and the normal way of doing things. Taking the time out to spend time and be present with other people such as yourself and interact is what were here to do. Instead of destroy what makes our nation strong we will weaken and so the end of time will we near. There is so much hatred in the world today toward each other it's scary to know your life may be taken by another with no reason at all. Just to be in the wrong place at the wrong time. Don't get me wrong were all going to die some day but letting the negativity that we brought onto ourselves for the exchange of manipulating computers and robots is all too foolish for a nation like this. Considering everyone is falling for the actual distractions of what phones, computers, tablets and video games may offer today..they make sure there is always a new updates somewhere to draw your interest even further away from your peers.
He starts rubbing me with this oil as my shirt is lifted over my titties just a quick assessing I couldn't take the shirt restricting me....so i take it off. My top is off and my pants of a thong are on with my legs spread as he sit behind me. Rubbing and caressing my lubed up titties perky as ever getting really turned on and hot for him...He starts to get his fingers across the top of my thong just rubbing my vulva and clit as his hands rub over my thong I start to get soaking wet for him. The girl walks in surprised with a nice size dildo in her hands and another man walks in behind her with blindfold and ties...What's going on her I wonder was one of my fantasies about to be fulfilled by this beautiful tattooed woman and this hot man she stood beside with. My man behind me persuades to still rub my pussy over my thong and the woman tends to kneel down right in front of my pussy. The other man holding a camera automatically start to hit record. I had no idea this was one of man's fantasy was to have a foursome...either way the couple was very hot and fuck-able as I would put it...my man suddenly holds my legs from behind, bringing my thighs up to my chest exposing pussy in front of this beautiful woman he restrains me. The camera man start to pull his 9 inch dick out and puts it in front of the girl as she starts to suck his long thick cock he records her slowly her taking him in her mouth then she takes the excessive spit moves my thong to side and spits it on my clit and has it run all the down to anus. I moaned load as she adjusted her mouth toward my pussy as she even became anything. The sex energy was hot from her mouth to my pussy. My thong moved to the side exposed my wet juicy pussy glistening and shimmered of the camera lens. The woman spreads my lips as she explained how "Wet my pussy was and how beautiful it was" " I can't wait to have you in my mouth baby girl" I thrust my position up toward her mouth as the anticipation killed me...to wait for her mouth to reach my pussy...she turns toward the camera and presents to suck her man as I watched and being uncomfortable in this position my man starts to rub my chest and nipples so perky and hard. He starts to get hard underneath me...I quickly adjust myself and try to get out of this position and she sees me jerk...She once again spits on my pussy again...Leaving a string of spit from her mouth to my pussy...I speak "Come on!" getting ready irritable of this sexual tension building up. She starts to run the jelly type of textured dildo up and down my pussy starting with my clit to my anus getting the line all lubed up even more....she starts to circle the dildo around the opening of my pussy slowly inching it in there and out again...My pupils dilate in delight of the pleasure that waits for me...She then puts her tongue at the side of my thigh and bites my inner thigh as my heart rate and breath start to pick up...I begin moan just so little that I didn't want to surrender my pleasure to her. Feeling like it wasn't except-able to let her have it...she only has the dildo half way in where my pleasure begins to heighten of the fact my man is watching this all go down. Me giving up my pleasure and surrender to this woman I just met not so long ago, I let her in.. I'm getting my clit slowly licked as I let out a long interesting moan that seemed to be let go from so long tension built up. I let go a long breath of built up anticipation.
Sex is the second basic instinct after survival
Sex is such a huge part of a human beings life. Our society is getting more comfortable being able to except and communicate with sex and sexuality but, I believe still many people and couples have a hard time expressing and communication sex and sexuality as if it's dirty, a sin or unhealthy. Why do couples have such a easy time having sex but, can't discuss it with each other? Isn't that crazy.!! I come across many couples of mine that where they have no issue making love but, speaking about with one another just doesn't happen. How can you communicate what you want, like, dislike unless you speak about it with your partner? Your not comfortable enough to discuss it with your best friend then why feel close to one another if that connection is missing of trust, safety and compromise. Either way eventually a couple will face hard conflicts with one another due to not being able to talk about sex.