James Webb
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Into the depths
First of all, if your reading this little thought of mine I appreciate you taking the time to slow down from your busy life and take a deep breath. In fact, go ahead and take a few deep breaths and exhale each breath very slowly. Now that your mind is a little clearer take a few minutes to stop and think about all the things that you want, you might list a number of items that are desired by every person that you know. Maybe you want a new phone or a new car even if they are only new to you. Maybe you want to take that vacation you've always dreamed of. Everyone in the world desires something all the time. It doesn't matter if you have enough money to buy a private island or you're sitting on the side of the street asking strangers for enough money to eat for a day. It doesn't matter if you are a 5 year old child wanting a toy for your birthday or an 85 year old grandparent wanting nothing more than to spend time with your children and grandchildren. But if you truly take the time to delve deep into those desires what you will find is that everyone is looking for happiness. But happiness is a fleeting shifting thing and its different for everyone. The key to seeing each person’s immediate happiness is in why we want the things that we want. Take a look at someone wanting a new phone for example. What if the reason that person’s wanting a new phone (maybe it's only new to them) has less to do with the phone than what they use the phone for. Perhaps that phone is the means by which they communicate with their loved ones. Being connected with friends and loved ones is important to our health and happiness. In fact the reason that most people desire things is in an effort to build and maintain personal connections. And of course we also get a boost of self-satisfaction and ego when we obtain new things. Like someone that has just bought a brand new convertible and drives slowly down the street so that everyone can see. I personally disagree with doing so but it's undeniable that people also derive happiness from the envy and misfortune of others. It makes us feel good to know that we have a better lot than someone else. Consistent long lasting happiness is often difficult for people to achieve. Those that do are usually more content with better personal connections rather than more things. Contentment is truly the ultimate goal because a content person doesn’t want much. Needs and wants are a matter of human nature and therefore it is difficult to set aside wants in place of contentment. Naturally it’s impossible to lump everyone into the same mold because everyone is different. No two people are exactly alike but most people share similar needs and wants. We all need food, but while many can be satisfied with a cheeseburger some can only be satisfied with a very certain cheeseburger with very certain condiments. In many cases we tell ourselves that we need things that are only wants. So the next time you want something ask yourself why. What emotional or physical need does it satisfy? Will it contribute to your lasting happiness or only your immediate happiness? Is your happiness gained at the expense of someone else's happiness? I'm not a doctor or a priest and I don't have any intentions of telling anyone how to live, but it doesn't hurt to take some time to self-reflect. Knowing yourself can help you make better choices and become a better, happier person.
By James Webb4 years ago in Motivation
What was lost.
The last rays of light faded with the sun sinking beyond the horizon. The surf washing against the shore filled my ears with its foamy sigh. The stars poked holes in the darkness as I stared across the barren sea. The wind churned and whipped until the clouds filled the holes the stars had made. I smiled as I lifted anchor and loosed the sail. The rain came first is slow fat drops but soon the wind carried stinging darts of blistering wetness. Lightning flashed and flashed again. I smiled with gritted teeth and urged more wind into the sail. I danced with wooden shoes upon the glassy sea. The wind embraced me and I held it fiercely. For when the sun broke free I found my hands empty, my kisses stolen away, and my embrace a gentle lifeless brush. Sitting lost in the over bright sun I drifted away, looking for what was lost.
By James Webb4 years ago in Poets