Dealing with an ED sucks. It’s the hardest thing you may ever have to go through besides maybe cancer. Your child or friend or maybe its a parent have a little voice in their head telling them they are worthless, that they have no right to hold space on this earth. Not eating or purging is helping them to cope with the stress and anxiety that they feel. OCD is often very present along with other comorbidities. It’s a heck of a lot of fun. If you are lucky, you get health insurance to help cover some of the costs and then you still have the grocery shopping, cooking, driving and planning that is just about a constant job for however long it is going to take. In my case it’s my daughter and I am really hurting for her right now. The only thing I know to do is to keep going. I think it must be like alcoholism or drug addiction or any other behaviour that is harmful but giving a temporary feeling of control and relaxation. One day is good, one day is awful, like bipolar.
Does your child have an eating disorder?
My lover comes to me at noon. He is my height and heavier than me, a bit of a teddy bear around the middle. He has short, groomed hair like salt and pepper and those dark eyes. Those dark O’Higgin eyes, like the rest of his family, that bore into you when they look at you. He greets me at the door with an Irish wool cap on his head and a full raincoat with the collar turned up. It’s raining and he looks like an old man in a way, but he is only 40. I love this about him. I don’t know why because sometimes he can be so annoying, but this gentleman that treats me with care is something I love.