Forward Progress vs. Repairing Damage
Forward progress vs. repairing damage.
In very few cases do I see it making sense to try and fix a fractured relationship when trust has been broken. To be clear, I am all for healing hurt, accepting responsibility, and trying to move forward in a healthy fashion. What I am NOT for is going through the cyclical mistrust: the kind of trust you, oh-no-something-similar-is-giving-me-flashbacks-so-now-we-are-back-to-square-one bullshit. It is toxic. It is unhealthy, and more importantly, it robs all parties involved of any dignity or ability to actually focus on beneficial aspects of their lives. Broken trust is like a swirling vortex of entropy; it only leads one direction. At least while wounds are still fresh. People are truly incapable of the age old adage of forgive and forget, and I feel like we do ourselves a disservice by pretending like that is a thing. At least without a prolonged break from the situation that caused us the hurt. This is a large part of the reason I refuse to engage in a lot of situations. It’s like pissing in the wind. It is wasted effort and energy.