Today is a day to renew our own lives. This article will be the start of a series of on how to relax and get your soul and body together so that you can be whole when this is done. I want to start with breathing because learning to breath properly is important in the relaxation process—not only physically but emotionally. When you started through your divorce did you ever feel like you were in between breaths? Like the next one would never come? You would never again feel that fresh air in your lungs? Divorces can be a long drawn out process that completely takes your breath away. Learning to breathe again is an important step to recovery. No matter where you are in the process it is important to take that first breath and realize that you can.
This is the second article in a series about how to weather the stress of your relationship or divorce and learning to relax. Part one was about breathing. Hopefully that helped you start the relaxation process. However, there are a lot of people emailing me and asking me how I can have such a positive attitude when my divorce isn't even over yet. I just have one word to tell you, faith. I have a lot of faith that everything will work out and I will be where I need to be. I have a lot of faith that when this is all over that I will see God's plan. I have a lot of faith that I will heal from this.
Today, in the third article of the relaxation series, I would like to give you some tips on how to get through the divorce in one piece. I am not an attorney, so if you need legal assistance, please consult one. I simply want to help you get through it emotionally and physically. The emotional strains of divorce and break ups can be long and leave residual damage, not only on your life but on your heart and body.
I would like to talk about forgiveness today. It is one of the hardest things in our lives to do. Most of the time, if we are at a stage where we need to forgive it, is because someone has wronged us or hurt us. After it happens we have a tendency to sit around and ask why. Sometimes we do that physically and get some closure, but sometimes we do not have that opportunity. Sitting in anger and hurt doesn't help us move forward. We get stuck in the continued search for the answer to questions that may have no answer. We need to find a way to be okay with that.
There is really no way for anyone to look at your relationship, any type of relationship, friends or lovers, from the outside and tell you whether it is healthy or not. The only thing they really have in order to know anything is by whatever you tell them. If they don't see everything that goes on or try to stand in your shoes, then there is no way they could ever know exactly what happens behind closed doors. They also have their own past and experiences that influence what they say or how they react to the situations they see. People in our lives have a tendency to try and tell us what they think we need. It is one thing to be protective and to care about someone, it's another to force our feelings, opinions and past on others. You need to look at your own relationship and gage for yourself whether it is healthy or not. So today I want to look at things you need to look at for yourself and the relationship you’re in or want to be in.
There is a difference between being in love with someone and being obsessed. Sometimes the line that divides them can become blurred and it can become hard to tell the difference. However, obsessions can become serious issues if not recognized and dealt with right away. Things can spiral out of control and it can turn into a volatile situation quickly. In today's society we have become very obsessed with relationships and how they are handled. With the implement of all the electronics, stalking has become a huge issue. When is that line is crossed between, "I love you and I'm worried," into "I am obsessed?" Maybe through a careful look at what love is and the right way to show it, we can start to see exactly where we stand in our relationships.