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When Chaos Wrecks Companionship — ADHD and Intimacy
There are many common misconceptions about Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). Perhaps the most pernicious myth is it doesn’t exist, and it’s all a scheme by pharmaceutical companies to make more money. The existence of Martin Shkreli doesn’t negate reality and scientific evidence.
Chel Wants to Fulfill Your Fantasies
(Originally published January 14, 2022) Technology is constantly evolving, as well as how we use it. But one of the most consistent threads in the history of human inventions is if we can use it for sexual gratification, we will. We figured out how to draw on cave walls and then made naked pictures. Since the stone age, humans have been shaping materials, including stone, into dildos. Not long after we figured out how to write, we made spicy poems.
When No Doesn’t Mean No — Engaging in Consenting Non-consent
(Originally published January 7, 2022) TRIGGER WARNING: This article is about fantasies and roleplay involving not asking for consent or violating it through physical force, coercion, and other means. These all fall under the broad heading of consenting non-consent, including things like rape or ravishment fantasies and dubious consent erotica. Many of the people interviewed for this article are survivors of sexual assault. There aren’t graphic details of rapes, but they are discussed. This article also mentions how people fantasize and roleplay these scenarios. Please proceed with caution if sexual assault is a topic that might trigger PTSD.
Erotica Writer Michael Williams Wants to Share the Love
(Originally published December 10, 2021) Miguel de Cervantes published Don Quixote in 1605. That would’ve been the end if someone hadn’t written an “unauthorized sequel” in 1614. After that, Cervantes penned an official continuation that reads as an extended literary fuck you to the author who dared to use his character. And to seal the deal, Cervantes ended the second part by killing off Quixote to prevent other writers from creating future works.
Ménage à Trepidation — How the Anxious Engage in Multi-partner Sex
(Originally Published on November 5, 2021) [Author note: A lot of the sources quoted here do not use trans inclusive language. And as with my previous articles, I’m drawing my interviews from NSFW Twitter. For those outside that space, your mileage may vary.]
Karen Heslop’s Experiments in Erotica
(Originally Published October 18, 2021) Pen names serve a lot of purposes. Between 1977 and 1982, Stephen King was very prolific. It may or may not have been related to his heavy cocaine use for most of it. At the time, the common publishing wisdom was you only publish one book a year. So he released four books (Rage, The Long Walk, Road Work, and The Running Man) using the pen name Richard Bachman to prevent it from looking like he was flooding the market.
In Alexa Sommers’ World, the Geeks Get the Girls
(Originally published on September 17, 2021.) How do you tell the difference between a geek and someone who is into bondage? You ask them what a dungeon master is. When it comes to Alexa Sommers’ work, her characters might ask you about context. Sommers refers to her work as Geekrotica. “It explores the eroticism, love, and passion of geek culture.” And she doesn’t stop there. “I delve into different kinks, romance, and a number of different genres, but I try to focus my stories on emotional growth and exploration.” Sommers has been writing most of her life, but she didn’t start writing adult content until a few years ago.
The hard wooden chairs in the professor’s office weren’t comfortable under the best circumstances, and Rebecca Hall was not under the best circumstances. She had still-healing bruises across her ass from the last time Professor Grant had corrected one of her writing exercises. She watched him as his red pen made her crisp white pages appear to bleed. The hand that wasn’t tearing her writing apart rested on the end of a worn, wooden yardstick balanced on the edge of his desk. In her short skirt, she sat with her legs crossed, trying not to squirm as she squeezed her thighs together. Watching him reminded her of the first time he’d handed her back a slaughtered paper with the note:
Intellectual Intercourse: Finances and Fishnets — The Art of Financial Domination
"Don't yuck someone else's yum" is a common maxim in sex-positive communities. However, there are still some kinks and fetishes that get side-eyed. People who have no issue with folks engaging in sadism or watersports can start to kink shame when it comes to financial domination, “findom” for short. Findom is a D/s dynamic that involves a Findom or Findomme and a finsub. As with DD/lg, pet play, or any other D/s pairing, no two relationships are going to look exactly alike. But, in the broadest terms, the Findom(me) demands cash, and the finsub sends it—usually referred to simply as sending, a tribute, or in more extreme cases, a wallet drain.
Intellectual Intercourse: Mind the Gap
(Some names have been changed to protect anonymity.) Women in relationships with men are the least likely group to achieve orgasm during sex. In a study published in 2017, only 65% of these women said they regularly reached orgasm during sex with a partner. That’s 30% fewer than men. Many things can account for anorgasmia — a chronic inability to achieve orgasm while receiving what would otherwise be adequate sexual stimulation. Certain hormonal issues, physical abnormalities, trauma, and medications can cause problems. But that can’t possibly account for the entirety of the 30% difference.