I am a psychotherapist specializing in interpersonal relationship challenges. After the Covid-19 outbreak, I pivoted from my Scottsdale private-practice to working as a telehealth professional. I am licensed in NJ and AZ. dejayebotkin.org
Acknowledgment I dedicate this guide to all of the strong women who have survived domestic abuse. I am proud of you for finding the strength inside of you—that you didn't know you had. For those of you still caught up in the struggle, let this guide be your guiding light.
The Balancing Act
Acknowledgment The father of cognitive-behavioral therapy, Doctor Aaron Beck, does not get enough credit in modern times for his work. Many theorists and clinical psychologists have repurposed CBT Theory by putting a personal spin on the basic premise of the theory, which is, “If you change your thoughts, you change your world.” To that end, I want to dedicate this book to Dr. Aaron Beck to show my appreciation for his contribution to the field of psychology. Were it not for his teachings; I would not be as successful as I am today working in behavioral health and addiction treatment.
Radicalized, by Dejaye Botkin
Belonging Julie Samrick wrote an outstanding book called How People Get Their Politics. In Samrick's book, she states, "Human beings inherently seek communities to which they can belong. Americans may find communities in houses of worship, at workplaces, in schools, and in neighborhoods. With the advent of the smartphone, it is no wonder people have sought communities online."
Lessons From 2020
Memoir of My Lessons Learned from 2020 By Dejaye Botkin, LPC After doing a deep dive into reading and educating myself about politics and government, this is my take.
Dejaye Botkin has been labeled outspoken and unfiltered; however, her clients appreciate her no-nonsense approach. Whereas many
Dear President Trump
Preface As I sit here editing this copy, I have just learned that Donald Trump left the hospital against medical advice and returned to the white house with an active Covid-19 infection. When I initially wrote this book, POTUS was still promoting the China Virus Hoax Theory. Now that he has been exposed, he is making insane claims that he may be immune, found the cure, and reiterates that Covid-19 is disappearing. He continues to ignore the immense stressors placed on our health care facilities, neglects Americans who are still sick and dying, and disregards survivors drowning in hospital bills.
The Betty in Me
I cut my bangs with some rusty kitchen scissors; I screamed his name 'til the neighbors called the cops. I numbed the pain at the expense of my liver, don't know what I did next - all I know, I couldn't stop. Word got around to the barflies and the Baptists. My Mama's phone started ringing off the hook. I can hear her now saying she ain't gonna have it, "Don't matter how you feel, it only matters how you look! Go and fix your makeup, girl, it's just a breakup, run and hide your crazy and start actin' like a lady. Cause I raised you better, you gotta keep it together, even when you fall apart. Powder your nose, paint your toes, line your lips and keep them closed!" – Miranda Lambert
The Search for Happiness
The Search for Happiness By Dejaye Botkin, LPC During my initial assessment with a client, I always ask, “What are your three goals for therapy?” The most common answer I hear is, “I want to be happy.” My young clients in particular often state that happiness is their single most important therapy goal and frequently express desperation for this goal to be achieved. I often hear clients express their desire to achieve happiness in this sequence: “I am either happy or sad. I know I am not happy, so I must be sad. Since I feel sad almost every day, I must be depressed, which makes me want to end the pain.”