An unedited excerpt from by upcoming book—Dysphoria Diaries—coming April 2030.
Growing up, I wasn't the most "boyish" kid you would have met. I had zero interest in playing football, watching sports, or doing anything that someone would think fits with the stereotypical "man" gender role. I took greater joy in pretending to do hair, fake cooking, and wearing things on top of my head and pretending it was hair. In my eyes, what I loved doing was normal, but in my father's eyes, it was anything but that. My father had a totally different idea of what was normal for my gender. He believed that I should be outside, playing sports with other boys. He believed that I shouldn't be putting things on my head and acting like it was hair. He believed I should be tough, and that I shouldn't cry. This is toxic masculinity. I wish I knew about that when I would cry and he would scold me and tell me that boys don't do that.