I apparently am the poster child of concussions. I have had more than the average bear, that’s definitely showing my age. Anyway, back to my concussion.
If you disregarded all the red flags and find yourself in an abusive relationship, and feel trapped, it may be the time to make a conscious decision to leave. Most victims leave two or three times before they actually get away.
In 2001, I went back to school to be a paralegal. I won’t bore you about how old I was then, but I had had Latin in high school around the time of the dinosaurs so I was one-up on the other students. Actually, I was two-up; most of them were fresh out of high school and still floundering. The school was interesting, to say the least. My teacher, a recently disbarred attorney (whose idea was that?), kept telling the others they could go on and be an attorney, but not me; she said that I was too old for that.
Just once, when the host asks the victim, “Do you want to go and confront them right now?” I’d like them to say, “No.” It would probably never happen because the confrontation is their bread and butter. It’s what brings in the new viewers, and keeps the current ones watching. It’s what keeps them in shiny vans and security guys. And keeps the cameras rolling.
If you got past the first date...
I know a lot about partner abuse, first because my former partner was an abuser, and second because I was a litigation paralegal who worked on domestic violence.