How to be kinder to yourself
A.Need to know
Know the Importance of Self-Compassion
Picture yourself preparing for a critical situation, like a challenging conversation with a friend, a crucial sports match, or a presentation for your company's leadership. You've dedicated months to practicing what you'll say or do. However, when the moment arrives and you're face-to-face with your friend, in the middle of the game, or standing before your colleagues and superiors, you freeze. You find yourself unable to speak. You tense up and miss your opportunities. Feeling anxious and embarrassed, you fear losing your friend, being excluded from the team, or missing out on a promotion. Afterwards, you retreat to a private space to shed tears or squirm with discomfort, or perhaps both. In that moment, with tears streaming down your face and your stomach in knots, a flurry of thoughts races through your mind: Is this for real? She will never forgive me. / I won't be selected for the team again. / I will never advance. How could I mess up after all that practice? Why did I ever think I was capable in the first place? I am destined to fail at everything.
