We've all had those weeks where work seems never-ending, or things have just been a bit too much to handle. Some people may find the idea of taking time for themselves to be impossible with their weekly schedule, but even just putting one afternoon or evening aside to recharge can help to ease the stress and chaos of everyday life.
Meditation can seem daunting to those who are unfamiliar with the practice, and often people believe that there is no way they can possibly clear their mind for long enough to achieve any benefit. We often visualise meditation as the Buddhist monks sitting with their hands upturned on their crossed legs, chanting 'Um' repeatedly. Of course, this image is correct for some methods of meditation practice, but this is not the image you should associate with meditating.
Social media is a great tool for reaching out to friends and family, staying connected with their lives, and keeping up with interesting events and articles. However, when we use social media to increase popularity, or follow people we admire obsessively, this can have a huge affect on anxiety and depression.
Whilst reading and watching TV shows and movies are great ways to wind down after a stressful day of work, or a way of distracting yourself when going through tough times, placing too much emotional investment in fictional characters and their relationships can have a dramatic effect on the way we perceive real-life connections with others.
When we make a mistake in life, we tend to harbour that guilt and shame as self-loathing and constant fear of making the same mistakes again. It’s the old saying, "Forgive yourself first," that we hear over and over again when seeking for advice on how to move on after once again self-sabotaging our own happiness. We obsessively read positive quotes, wallow in our misery, and then find something to distract ourselves until we move on to make the same mistakes and end up in the same situation years, or even months, later. Sound familiar? This is the negative repetition that was my routine throughout my life until recently. How did I finally stop distracting myself from the pain and end the negativity that had resulted in copious amounts of failed relationships, and years of low self-esteem? The answer may sound cliché, and we’ve all heard it before, but learning to love yourself is your only option to get yourself out of the never-ending cycle of self-sabotage.