Why (don't) pay for psychotherapy

"Because the psychotherapist is not a doctor," "he doesn't have that much schooling."

The psychotherapist has "only": three years of college plus two years of master's degree. Then, depending on the chosen specialty (the form of psychotherapy: cognitive-behavioral, interactive, psychodynamic, etc.) he does between 2-4 years of training (ie school / courses), after which another 2-5 years of supervision.

In total, between 9-14 years of training! To which is added his own psychotherapy (between 2-5 years!)

"Because psychology is easy, you read a few books and you're done," "because psychology is not medicine."

During the training, the psychotherapist will study: clinical psychology, pharmacology, neurology, will practice in a hospital or specialized clinic. He will read a few tens / hundreds of books. And in addition, he will have over 40 training teachers, before whom he will give dozens of exams and present case studies. Banal. Not to mention the dozens of additional courses, workshops and conferences he will have to attend throughout his professional life. A trifle.

"Because it is known that they take time to take your money"

It is easy for a psychotherapist to listen for tens and tens of hours (often hundreds of hours) to the most horrible life stories, the most painful confessions or the description of traumas: rapes, murders, accidents, beatings, conflicts, the death of loved ones, etc. . To witness screams and bursts of tears, to be offended (because they have to "collect" what the patient has to discharge) or to see people on the verge of madness and to keep calm so that they can help them. The psychotherapist is stubborn to listen to the harshest stories, staying with patients only to receive money.

"Because there are shorter ways"

It is known that the human mind can change very quickly. For example, if your father died in your arms when you were a child, or you were beaten to death in childhood, if your uncle raped you or you were the only survivor of a car accident with 6 victims, a enchantment, a release, some crystals hanging around your neck and you're done. In just two 2-3 sessions of energetic massage, 5-6 needles stuck where needed and the trauma was resolved. He also walks slowly with his fingers on his head, on his body, or on wood.

"Because it's very expensive"

It's always "cheaper". And faster. If you have repeated the same behavior for years (decades), an oil, some energy passes, some incantations, the picture of a mandala will do you good immediately. How, only 500 an energy massage session? 150 a 50 ml bottle of oil? 300 lei mandala? Dozens of money-making analyzes, in vain? Wealth at stake? Details….

"Because word therapy is stupid"

That is why neighbors, relatives and friends are the best counselors. It doesn't matter if none of them are too rosy (and they are divorced, their children don't listen to them much, your best friend is still with his parents at the age of 30 and has not had a job for 5 years, etc.) the intention matters. Between two coffees or two splashes there is the best chance you will have a revelation that will change your life. Nightclubs and malls are also known for their power to produce brilliant life-changing ideas and to solve psycho-emotional traumas.

"Because I have a strong mind, I can control everything"

Says the one who has panic attacks and is in the ninth relationship… And the one who has depression… and the one who has erectile dysfunction (basically… psychic)… and the one who… .and the one who… .And then, someone really believes that he can control everything ?!

"Because I can read psychology books too"

Exact. Just like, for example, you can operate on your own. Read the "Internal Medicine Treaty" and you can extract your infected appendix. If you don't have much to change / improve on, it's very likely that reading will be good for you. But when we talk about serious situations, traumas, well-developed defense mechanisms, what you read and what you can understand will stop at the limit of what hurts you the most… That is, you can self-analyze to the limit own resistance.

"Pro-bono, why don't you do it? You say you like working with people, so why ask for money? ”

The dream of all psychotherapists is to work for free from morning till night, as everyone does, including their patients. We already know that doctors, priests, teachers and many others work only for pleasure. For them, the rent, maintenance, raising of children is ensured by the Universe, through special energies sent to the suppliers of food, electricity, etc. Psychotherapists have invested tens of thousands of euros in their training just to be able to work for free, because their work will be rewarded by good deeds in the afterlife. Then we know that the owners do not ask for rent for the space where the psychological office is located, nor the administrators do not ask for maintenance, nor the authorities taxes and duties.

No, do not go to psychotherapy, there is a chance that it will change your life