Gary Vaynerchuk Is the Worst Part of Any Woman's Fears

Luay Rahil

Photo: GaryVee Instagram

Kim Kardashian broke the internet with her butt, and Gary Vaynerchuck broke the internet with his divorce.

Gary Vaynerchuk understands social media like nobody else. His 10 million Instagram and 3.1 million Twitter followers are a testament to it. The social media magnate thrives on attention and knows how to grab all the headlines.

Vaynerchuk was born in Babruysk, Belarus, and moved to the United States with his family when he was 3. He grew up in New York before moving to New Jersey while still at the young age of 7. As a young kid, he sold lemonade, and baseball cards, before joining his family's wine business at 14, helping his father bag ice for two dollars per hour.

He graduated from Mount Ida College with a bachelor's degree in management before returning to work at his father's liquor store. That's when he started a YouTube channel called Wine Library TV, which launched him into social media. Vaynerchuk used his newfound popularity to piss some people off and attract many fans.

Gary Vaynerchuk is a contrarian who likes to piss people off.

Vaynerchuk often takes contrarian positions on marketing, business, and entrepreneurship topics. Some people appreciate his unconventional views and willingness to question the status quo, while others may see him as unnecessary contrarian or even reckless. He is the poster child of Hustle culture, the notion that working hard, often to exhaustion, is the key to success.

Gary Vaynerchuk focuses on expanding his business at the expense of his well-being and family. He pressures young individuals to work long hours and sacrifice their personal lives and relationships to reach their goals. This mindset drove him to divorce and replace his wife with a younger woman. Vaynerchuk is the worst part of any woman's fears. Vaynerchuk, who never posted a picture of his wife online, couldn't wait to share an image of his new girlfriend.

Why is his divorce significant?

This is significant because Vaynerchuk preaches family first, but he has yet to do one thing to place his family first.

This divorce demolishes his business and moral standing because anytime a rich man divorces his wife, who married him when he was poor, to replace her with a younger woman, I wonder what he stands for. Family, sex, money, etc.? Unless he is not a self-made man, as he claims, and inherited most of his seed money from his father, which is okay, admit it. Don't make young men think they are poor because they choose to sleep 8 hours per night and should be willing to sacrifice that.

Be like Gary, but don't be like Gary V.

Vaynerchuk is everything you want your child to be and everything you hate to see in your child. Gary Vaynerchuk is known for his direct and explicit communication style, which some people appreciate as authentic, while others see him as harsh or uncaring.

Vaynerchuk's persona and style can be offensive and respectful at the same time. This style earned him both fans and critics. Some people see him as a visionary entrepreneur, and others see him as an obnoxious man who is only interested in one thing, promoting himself. I hate his approach to promoting the Hustle culture and making people feel guilty if they're not working 24/7. This insistence in pushing young people to work all the time led many young individuals to the breaking point and burnout.

Gary Vaynerchuk is too self-centered.

Gary Vaynerchuk loves Gary Vaynerchuk more than anyone else in the world.

He is the only man in the world who can give business advice for 5 hours without providing any business advice. Vaynerchuk believes that the only reason people fail is their inability to take 24 hours and their desire to spend time with their family. This is the same mindset that led to his divorce.

Vaynerchuk mistakes long hours for productivity and busyness with business. He often mentions how he worked for his father's company for years without taking vacations, and he views anyone who wants to enjoy the weekend as a loser who doesn't understand the value of hard work.

He has a video on YouTube titled "The Ultimate Advice For Every 20-Year-Old." The video started well by telling young individuals not to compare themselves to others before jumping at the deep end with his toxic advice, "I gave up my entire 20s, all of them. Imagine not doing anything fun or going anywhere for the next eight years, including Saturday and Sunday. That's what I did from 22 to 30."

Before adding, "You spent more downtime on not your career this weekend than I did in my entire 20s combined. You need to… realize that if you put your head down and just work for the next ten years, no glamour, no new fucking car, suitcase, jewelry, trip, event, Coachella, etc., you will have it."

His advice is not only wrong, but it is also toxic.

This is what Gary Vee needs to tell you.

Working harder is only sometimes the answer.

I know many people who work hard but can't pay their mortgages. Working hard on the wrong things doesn't lead to success. It leads to exhaustion and burnout.

You have to be ruthless at working on the things that lead to results versus working on something that makes you feel better, like checking your social media feed. A few years ago, I worked very hard on building social media presence, thinking it would lead to financial success. Instead, it almost led to depression before I woke up and started to work on things that matter.

You need to define success for yourself to get it.

If you don't know where you want to go, you will never get there. If you don't know what enough looks like, you will drive yourself to exhaustion and divorce, trying to find enough money, enough homes, or enough businesses.

What does success looks like to you? Is it a house? A million dollars in your bank account? When will you feel that you have enough? Gary Vee had everything and nothing at the same time. He had the freedom to spend any time with his family and no time simultaneously. However, he was so poor that he had nothing but money. The damage of working 20 hours every day with no weekends and no vacation leads to nowhere but failure land.

As I type this, many young people are stuck in their careers and listening to Gary Vee for encouragement. They will spend a lot of their money and time reading his books, listening to his videos, and losing their minds and won't get any results. They will find his content shallow and lack practical advice to get anything started. They will discover that the word "Hustle" is not a business plan or a business model that anyone can use to succeed.

If you want to get unstuck, define what success looks like, and determine the smallest next step to get there. If you're going to write a book, commit to writing ten pages daily. Whatever you want to do, take the smallest next step, and do it. Stop looking for the one big giant step, and take the smallest action you can take today.

Work smart, don't focus on hard work only. Learn how to network and keep moving forward by networking with people who need what you have. Pitch them your ideas and keep doing it over and over.

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