THE LESSON OF UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

WHAT IS UNCONDITIONAL LOVE?

How does it differ from the love that's a constant pursuit for people, one that leads many to despair? How can we describe it in a way that's universally understood?

It's easy to repeat slogans, but do we truly grasp the depth of ideas like:

"Love yourself!"

"All is One!"

The Twin Flame journey is the journey to our true selves!

Love is the only life-creating energy!

All these phrases can, and often have been, twisted into egocentric possession – stripped of their essence. Yet, these sentences are devoid of judgments and ownership. They're the inner understandings we hold about ourselves. Unfortunately, in most cases, this isn't well understood. Even if we explain them clearly and briefly, during the next interaction, we may still revert to blaming others and demanding they treat us in certain ways.

In reality, others don't owe us anything. They've entered into Soul Contracts with us and fulfill their roles in our lives, as we need to learn the lesson of Unconditional Self-Love.

And one thing is for sure – the more judgments we give and expect others to do things for our sake, the more painful the "pop quizzes" during this lesson will be.

In the Estonian Access Consciousness community, there's a beautiful movement called "Choose Yourself." Everything might seem alright, but how many actually know who they truly are, enough to choose themselves?

And as is typical for Estonians, they'll split a hair and play the role of wannabes. What's important is that the community deems me right, it's important that the community contributes to my endeavors. But if someone starts to seek their True Self or consciously learn their life lesson, their actions are dismissed. Because surely it can't be right if you're experiencing all that laughter and joy on the journey to your inner self. Yet, this journey is far from just flowers and butterflies and "taking," as some Estonian folks might believe.

Certainly, Access Consciousness is not all about new age flowers and butterflies. What's rock-solid certain is that Access is an AMAZING TOOL to get to know our True Selves. And most importantly, Access teaches us to ask questions, drop judgments, and receive everything that comes into our lives and is yet to come. This means understanding that what comes, what is, and what was, is ALWAYS for our personal growth.

Why am I bringing up this topic now? Simply as an Observer, I see too often how people have turned Access into their new belief system. Just like Jehovah's Witnesses or extreme Muslims. Yet, the book that's being followed and the core values of the belief system emphasize protecting and cherishing life. So where does it go wrong, and the original values are twisted upside down?

Human fears. Fears create a filter through which we perceive the world. But this isn't a judgment-free filter; it remains on the level of the ego. Instead of learning from past experiences and telling our biological brains, "Just because you don't have the experience to change this situation doesn't mean there isn't a positive outcome for me in this situation!"

Indeed, you give your brain the command to find the best solutions for you. And there's no need for a frantic rush of contributions. The danger with excessive contributions is that if a person, whom others energetically support, doesn't change their behavioral and thought patterns, those contributions only provide a temporary fix. Eventually, the person's own "calling" has to take over. And when that well runs dry, they often revert to blaming others – accusing them of jealousy and "cursing" their success. Really, though? Unfortunately, we've witnessed this scenario far too often.

Access is an energetic language and lifestyle. It's a simplified version of Magic, with unnecessary mystique spun around it. Just like a clairvoyant or witch can temporarily help, the individual has to make their choices and adjust their behavior and thoughts to make the results lasting. Similarly, those in the community who ask for contributions should understand that they need to change their own behavior and thoughts, and they need to prove to the Universe what they receive from others. They prove it by changing their views for the development of their True Selves. Otherwise, they become addicts or "beggars" who don't do anything for their own biochemical machinery and well-being – they only demand and take.

Why am I highlighting this here? We all know how the media has given extensive coverage to stories of unstable individuals and their negative experiences with the Access Consciousness community. But often, this happened because those individuals didn't want to grow. For them, the contributions were like a narcotic fix. And when their pattern was seen through and contributions ceased, the criticism and discrediting started.

But just so this doesn't seem like I'm diminishing the work that Access Consciousness leaders and true practitioners do and achieve – let me make it clear that I've been involved since the spring of 2012.

I've achieved powerful results for myself and those under my care through this practice. It's genuine and straightforward. It demands honesty with your Higher Self. It requires letting go of ego. And this letting go of ego isn't about diminishing oneself. It's about looking at yourself honestly, loving your own Shadow, and developing your inner Essence with every decision.

Yes, we are Wizards, and this tool resembles a wand. But the Magic and Energies encapsulated in Access Consciousness demand responsibility for our decisions and choices. It's all as Gary Douglas describes in his "10 Keys to Total Freedom." What do you choose when you know you're choosing every 10 seconds, that you might leave in the next 10 seconds?

But with this comes the responsibility for our choices. Ego wants the big house and loads of money now. Ego demands that others love us. BUT... what if we started by creating all this within ourselves, so that what's inside us can reflect in our external world? What if we choose to CREATE LOVE WITHIN OURSELVES? What if we choose to CREATE ABUNDANCE WITHIN OURSELVES? Yet, what I often see is a desire to contribute to something already finished, while the person inside is empty and engulfed in a scarcity energy. As Dain Heer mentioned in his 2013 seminar in Tallinn, the main reason certain areas have people in pitiable conditions is due to a poverty mindset, constant hunger, and the energy of scarcity in people's thoughts.

So, instead of stubbornly trying to extract from others, even if it's like a "camel through the eye of a needle," and blaming the people in your life for your misery, while sucking the "euphoric drug" from the Access Estonia community, every individual should start with finding their True Self.

As the primary task of Access, we were given the assignment to discover our three gifts. These gifts that our Essence brought with it, to create the necessary well-being in this embodiment. We've forgotten these gifts. We still cling to the approval of others, even as we diminish our own needs and abilities.

And why should others appreciate or love us for miracles' sake, when we're hollow inside and can't even love that original, True Self, with all its hidden facets?

Love is creative energy. And it's through this that we develop ourselves and our environment. But love isn't possession. Demanding that another behaves as we assume is not self-love; it's self-reduction to be accepted in others' eyes.

Many don't even remember what Unconditional Love truly means.

Impatient ones have associated it with the illusion of love and "playing house," some kind of attachment. I've started calling them Cinderellas.

WHY?

In their impatience, their attitude sounds like "one and only" echoes through everything. Yet, they forget that it might indeed be "one and only," but until they reach that ultimate one, they must go through all those lessons that, when together with that "one and only," would otherwise kill one or both souls. Only after mastering those lessons can a "one and only" relationship flourish. Otherwise, it's a destructive act of violence for both sides.

Learning Unconditional Love comes through truly knowing oneself. Therefore, I wholeheartedly agree with the slogan "Choose yourself!" What bothers me is how its usage turns people into egocentrics and bulldozers over others.

In psychology and even in magic, there's a beautiful saying, "Do no harm, but don't take any shit!" And it's behind this saying that the simplest truth of Unconditional Love resides. "Don't cause harm, but value your own boundaries and well-being!"

This time, such reflections. Maybe these will be helpful for those still trying to adjust their perspectives and learn to truly choose themselves and take responsibility for their choices.

To avoid complicating things further, I'll conclude this story and return with new insights about what's happening in energies, hoping to provide support to those resonating with my writings.

I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea, and I value sincere and profound self-examination over the shallow flight of a one-day butterfly. Therefore, I hope you've gained some clarity today and that you're safely and protected dwelling in your own heart's power.

Elle Vihman from June 9, 2019