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How Do We Receive A Compliment?

Is saying thank you enough?

By Denise E LindquistPublished 15 days ago 3 min read
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How Do We Receive A Compliment?
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Who was the last person you expressed gratitude toward and how was it received?

Just before I started to write this, I was texting with a friend. She had just returned to the States from Mexico. She was pleased that the border only took them 15 minutes. I welcomed her back and then thanked her for her Tupperware donation to my fundraiser.

Instead of recognizing that I was grateful and appreciated, she said, "I thought it would be more and do you want more?" Her sister-in-law gave me the Tupperware and I thought it was quite generous. I was hoping my friend would be okay with that.

Before her, I thanked my husband for being so helpful as we had company and I wasn't sure I could handle cleaning, cooking, and cleanup. He accepted that well. I acknowledged how he is always so helpful during those times when we have company.

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Then I found myself telling someone that it is okay to just say thank you when receiving a compliment from someone. Especially something someone has done for you that you are grateful for.

I had heard that when we receive a gift and find excuses why it isn't enough or we minimize the value, it means we are telling the person their gift isn't worthy when we make excuses or deny what they have given.

He said it is like a slap across the face rather than your gratitude that they should get to feel.

I practice gratitude all of the time. I am so grateful for the gift of gratitude writing prompts. And other reminders to be grateful.

Simple Reminders.

I had a sponsor in recovery that asked me to write a gratitude list every day, even if it was just a few things.

Sometime later I was sitting in a meeting when another woman said, "My sponsor asked me to write a gratitude list every day and I heard it is because I am feeling sorry for myself!" I thought so that is why I have to write a gratitude list every day. I'm still putting that list together most days.

It works! I am not thinking so much about me as I am others!

Melody Beattie

This is one of the quotes from Melody Beattie that I will share at least yearly on social media.

I am so grateful for everyone I come into contact with. I wasn't always. Somedays it feels like I am meant to learn something from everyone I encounter.

Today, I try to remember when receiving a compliment that all I have to say is "Thank you".

I have a group today and I almost always get a thank you for the group. Or some form of that. Today it was Thank you for coming out! I told the group I continue to look for a replacement and I was told, "You will be missed!"

I said I want to Thank you too for being such great people and doing great work while you are here!

Probably the last thing I want to mention is how I talked with my son today, texted a few people, and talked with a very good friend and a person I work for. All of them were told how much I appreciate them.

Then, I was told "Love you" by my son and my good friend on the phone. I was thanked by the woman I work for. And the people I texted with all told me to have a good day after I told them to have a good day or sent hearts.

One friend thanked me for contributing to her recovery when she needed it the most. She said, "None of us had to go back to drinking, even once because of that support!" That was the best! It made my day and hers!

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About the Creator

Denise E Lindquist

I am married with 7 children, 27 grands, and 12 great-grandchildren. I am a culture consultant part-time. I write A Poem a Day in February for 8 years now. I wrote 4 - 50,000 word stories in NaNoWriMo. I write on Vocal/Medium weekly.

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  • Andrea Corwin 8 days ago

    It comes back to you! People also need to realize that when they refuse a gift ("let me get this lunch," or "I will get that for you,") they are depriving the giver of the pleasure of giving.

  • Shirley Belk14 days ago

    Loved this!!! Thank you for writing and reminding us all :)

  • Thank you so much for being my friend and I'm so grateful to be able to read all your wonderful writings!

  • “M”15 days ago

    Great job yes everyone should be grateful and happy for the smallest thing you receive from anyone. No matter how little was this thing 🫰🏼

  • Mark Graham15 days ago

    Good work and thank you for writing this. Love all the images.

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