Why do i have to tell you i was abused?

"I find myself constantly having to replay, over and over and over again the abuse, the trauma which has placed me in an economical disparity and class of mental disability unlike any other" This is what i envision a woman that has suffered from domestic violence telling herself. Every-time i find myself overcoming any barrier, rather it big or small, i have to AT-LEAST mention the nature of my past abuse. Can you imagine having to relive that moment of terror over and over again in your head? all while interacting with a stranger? especially someone like a potential employer, or an organization offering services and goods. The moment when things get too difficult either on your end or theirs you have to tell them "i am a victim of domestic violence", and sometimes being that broad isn't enough. Often you find yourself providing an example of the horrific incident just to prove your point.

Now your standing there looking like an unstable woman with no sense. You can just feel the judgment of disgust coming from the person. There goes you character, yours value, there goes your ability to practice common sense or even make good choices. Then comes the "Im so sorry you had to deal with that"....and lastly the proper goods or services you needed from this interaction is given to you. Lastly you sign some sort of agreement with them where they claim to NOT share the sensitive information YOU JUST PROVIDED AGAIN.

Where is the regard to my personal health and feelings pertaining to such sensitive information? Just mentioning being a victim of domestic violence is humiliating enough, imagine having to provide even the slightest details about your abuse to a complete stranger. its demoralizing repulsive and an open door welcoming a highly ignored, unconstitutional protected form of discrimination

The Violence Against Women Act of 1994 (VAWA) was a United States federal law (Title IV, sec. 40001-40703 of the Violent Crime Control and Law Enforcement Act, H.R. 3355) signed as Pub. L. 103–322 by President Bill Clinton. The act provided funding towards the funding prosecution of perpetrators that commit crimes of abuse against there partners. There has been many legal fights and arguments towards extending this act to transgender individuals as well as immigrants that are not legally documented in the united states. While this act provides the funding for the necessary resources to combat domestic violence, It does not do much as far as the protection from being discriminated against it as well as public disclosures and privacy for these individuals.

Women all over the world are subjected to abuse from their s/o to their family members. In some cultures it normalized and accepted. Here in America , the land of the free and equal opportunity, Abuse of any kind is not acceptable.While domestic violence is often looked at as physical, mental abuse is just as bad if even worse. The mental abuse a woman has to endure while building her life back to normality and adjusting to the civilian ways of interacting is unimaginable.Domestic violence is the most complex form of abuse there is and anyone can become subjected to it.Hopefully one day the law will hold stricter terms when it comes to dealing with people that have suffered from domestic violence, and provide real privacy for these indiviuals.