Resisting the temptation of Women

Well let me start by saying that I have no problem with women and this article is not aimed at making anyone hate women or disrespect them in any way. Society has evolved to make women more sexualized and that is used to market everything these days, from dresses to even music, and we are often caught up into this even without our consent. Men find themselves having to deal with a lot of these indecent imagery constantly, be it on Tv, social media, at the workplace or even on the streets, but somehow society has decided that only women can be sexually harassed.

Here are some tips which can help you deal with all of this so that it doesn’t increase your libido and lead to a negative behavior. These tips will help you work with women and have good relationships without them necessarily being sexual in nature. For these to work you have to make sure you understand your feelings to begin with and know what you want or don’t want to do.

Avoid social media

Social media is full of women showing off their bodies trying to gain some attention, this can be very tempting since it's just some reduced version of pornography. Avoid social media which don’t censor such content and unfollow such kinds of persons because even if you think those images don’t influence you, they still plant the ideas at the back of your mind which may later grow up into actions. I disabled images on twitter, I don’t use instagram that much and I don’t follow people who could post such images on facebook, I make sure to mute anyone on whatsapp who posts indecent images. Your social media should be censored from all this content which could make your libido rise or make you look at women in a sexual way, generally women are not trying to be sexual around everybody, sure they seek for attention but not necessarily in a sexual way and unfortunately these images might lead you into the false belief that every woman you see is like that.

Impose a dressing code in your inner circle

We can control what we see on social media and on Tv, but we can’t always control what we see on the streets or around the workplace, the idea is not to get rid of all indecency all together but rather to make sure that the people who are closest to us aren’t part of the problem. You have to make it clear to your inner circle of persons where your limits are, don’t let women dress indecently near you, make sure everyone in your family understands the importance of a decent dress code. Girls don’t think too much about their dressing habits, they just go off what makes them look the best without realizing the implications of that for the people around them, your dressing could lead you to be sexually harassed.

Keep out of the line of sight

One good way of avoiding the temptation of women is to keep them out of your line of sight, the more you look, the more you get tempted, so make sure you don’t have women standing in your line of sight all the time. Your focus should be on other things and not on the body line of your colleagues or wondering what kind of perfume they have on. I’m not saying you should be running away from women but rather that you shouldn’t be actively trying to engage with women all the time, doing so might lead you to involuntarily get the wrong ideas and act on impulses.

Find something wrong

When you are tempted by a woman, one good strategy is to find something wrong about that person and over exaggerate it. Doesn’t really matter what it is but just finding something to dislike about that person and make a big deal out of it in your mind. Of course, you are not going to tell the person this, you will just keep it to yourself to help you not feel any attraction for that person anymore. You would be surprise to see that every person has a flaw but be cautious not to let this make you hate the person for no good reason.

Sometimes we make persons perfect in our minds by totally ignoring all their flaws, its only when our libido has descended that we realize that the person might not have been so great after all but thats when its already too late. You want to be able to do this before doing anything you might regret in the end.

Hormones

When you are beside a woman, you should probably avoid taking in too much air around them. Like you can see from that screenshot above, you have already lost the fight even before starting. Feelings are impossible to control for the most part so you have to be proactive in dealing with them, an erection isn’t always consent and in such a situation you might be fooled into thinking that you are attracted to a person meanwhile it's just hormones playing on you. A good number of animals emit hormones to attract the opposite sex during the season of mating and humans aren’t exceptions to this rule either, so you should be aware of this. Nature doesn’t know about monogamy, STDs or cheating so don’t think its going to stop being nature because you are forced to work or interact with women constantly.

I’m just presenting you with the facts here, I’m not telling you what to do or not to do, I didn’t write that article on webmd neither did I make nature the way it is. I don’t mean you should stop breathing every time you are beside ladies but be aware that there are hormones in the air which may influence how you feel about a person even without you consenting to it.

Conclusion

Understanding how you feel is very important in dealing with your emotions, don’t let society’s depravity push you to do things which you didn’t intend to do in the first place. Hopefully we can get to a better place of respect and decency on the different medias we interact with all the time, but before that, be well aware of the dangers and the damage caused by the sexualization of women in modern society aimed at driving profits. By nature, we are attracted to the opposite sex, media companies understand this all too well and take advantage of this to the fullest to influence us into buying their products. Don’t let your self be manipulated.

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