Middle age

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Generally speaking, most people are in the stage of career stability after middle age, with the old and the young.

However, this period is also the stage when middle-aged couples feel extremely tired of their marriage.

Often at this time, couples are prone to conflicts over small things, because they are tired of each other's marriage, but never find a way to cope.

Want to run the marriage well, but never its method can only watch the couple more and more strange, more and more any words.

At this point, many people will turn outside the marriage or look for the so-called soul mate, or the pursuit of new and exciting, in short, is to divert attention from the so-called opposite sex friends, trying to find a trace of comfort.

But it is worth noting that people in their middle age, both men and women, have to keep their distance from friends of the opposite sex, tired of marriage again, is not an excuse for you to hurt your significant other.

You have to understand, people to middle age, the relationship with friends of the opposite sex if you crossed the line, waiting for you will be the end of all things, people to middle age, you should not be able to withstand any failure, right?

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In Li and her husband Zhang Feng were married for almost 10 years, although the two people in the 10 years of feeling are quite good, but usually always inevitable small quarrels.

This is not, two days ago two people because of a matter and not too happy, because the couple intends to buy a house, but the calculation of all the savings found that there is still a shortfall of 80,000 yuan for the down payment.

Zhang Feng thinks the bank loan is good, and In Li thinks borrowing from friends is good, to go to the bank to do the procedure is too much trouble. The two fought because of this matter, In Li's heart uncomfortable, sent a circle of friends to complain about this matter.

The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you're getting into.

At firsts,t In Li was very happy, because not only her emotions were pacified in time, but also found a solution to the problem. But this way, Zhang Feng will not continue to fight with her, really a two-way thing.

But then In Li thought carefully, such a way is still not right, after all, the other side is a friend of the opposite sex, which will make Zhang Feng feel uncomfortable, plus this friend of the opposite sex chased her for a long time, was In Li refused several times, and finally at ease to do ordinary friends.

In order not to break the relationship between the two friends, In Li still sent a We Chat to reject his good intentions. She knows that with friends of the opposite sex, must maintain a certain distance, no matter how good the relationship, and do things that should not be done, the relationship will sooner or later cross the line.

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Not everyone understands the scale of heterosexual interaction issues, often the two relationships turned sour, and hurt the closest loved ones, but also confused and do not know where they are wrong.

Men or women, people to middle age, whether you have a family or not, heterosexual friends to do less of these things, or the relationship will sooner or later cross the line.

Less late at night chat

Now many people, once at night, there will be little sleepless nights, so the thoughts fly far and wide.

Because, during the day are to work, to the evening is relatively in a quiet and relaxed atmosphere, naturally also consider more up.

Especially at night, late at night time, the inner will be especially vulnerable, if this time there is a friend of the opposite sex to chat with you, it is easy to produce the emotion of dependence.

When people reach middle age, they should not spend too much time on this kind of sad thing, you should understand that your shoulders are still carrying responsibility, if always chatting with the opposite sex late at night, it is not good for the body, but also affect the efficiency of the next day.

And, late night time chatting, is easy to breed feelings, which will make you look forward to the late night that period when you look forward to chatting with friends of the opposite sex, that your relationship has crossed the line.

Talk less about each other's relationship problems

By middle age, most people are married, and it's normal for a marriage to create some problems at this time.

No couple does not fight without conflict, fighting means that both spouses are changing themselves for the marriage, and many conflicts a fight will pass.

And you have to do, just more time to find the reason for the conflict, rather than in the relationship with the other half of the problem, to the opposite sex friends to confide in.

You should know that marriage is exclusive, no matter how innocent your relationship with friends of the opposite sex is, as soon as it comes to relationship problems, it is easy to cross the line.

Your significant other will be thinking wildly, and you will also be in the process of confiding in your significant other and the opposite-sex friend, and you will certainly feel that this opposite-sex friend is much better than your significant other.

In the long run, the relationship will cross the line sooner or later.

Go out less with the opposite sex alone

If it is a good friend of the opposite sex, a period did not get together, occasionally a small gathering or can, because this can increase the feelings between you, when the two sides have difficulties, or find each other to help solve the problem.

However, do not frequent and the opposite sex friends alone out to play, the so-called frequent means: every other day.

You know, two middle-aged friends of the opposite sex often go out to play, it is easy for others to misunderstand, misunderstanding more, both sides will get used to it, and slowly do not care too much.

Moreover, two people often together will be more likely to produce feelings, because together for a long time, understand more.

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In general, if you think in your heart just take him as a good friend of the opposite sex to see, then we should pay relative attention to the way and scale of interaction.

After all, people of middle age, have a wife and children, the old and the young, you have a lot of responsibility on your shoulders, do not because of emotional problems, and lost the home.

If you are single and have long been interested in each other, then why bother to do these ambiguous things? Express your feelings boldly, perhaps it is a different story.

But no matter how, in time, it seems that there is no simple friendship between men and women, two people become friends, must be because the other party has a place to attract you.

If you do not pay attention to the scale of the relationship, then the other side of this attraction to you is easy to ferment into love.

People in middle age, in the matter of making friends, should be especially careful, less should not do things, otherwise, the relationship is easy to cross the line.