5 Secrets to Satisfying Sex

What makes men happy in bed? What makes women happy in bed? It’s probably not what you think. There are many factors that can affect the sexual experience. These factors vary drastically between men and women. If you’re looking to make your sex life the best it can be, read on for some great insights into why the secrets to satisfying sex are much more nuanced than simply being active or having foreplay. Although those things are important here are some secrets that are not commonly talked about.

Secret #1: Establish Boundaries

Before you can even think about getting physically intimate with someone, it’s important that you establish clear boundaries. This means communicating your wants, needs, and limits both verbally and non-verbally. Some of the non-verbal indicators, especially during foreplay, are about pleasurable sounds and breathing. Paying attention to both forms of communication will not only help prevent hurt feelings or misunderstandings, but it will also make sex more enjoyable for both of you.

For example, if one person likes a particular type of foreplay while the other dislikes it, stop doing what they don’t like! Most importantly, be honest with yourself and each other. Honesty breeds trust, which makes sex much better for everyone involved.

Secret #2: Ask for What You Want

Many women have a hard time asking for what they want in bed, feeling that they might come across as demanding or bossy. But the truth is, most men want to please their partner and will be happy to oblige if they know what it is she wants. So don’t be afraid to speak up! For instance, if you’re not getting enough clitoral stimulation during intercourse, then tell your man so he can try something different.

You could also ask him to use his fingers during oral sex in order to increase your arousal before intercourse or after orgasm (something called post-coital cuddling). Communication is key to good sex! If something doesn’t feel good, let your partner know so they can adjust their technique or change what they’re doing. The more comfortable you are being vocal about what feels good and what doesn’t, the more likely it will lead to better sex for both of you. You’ll be amazed at how much more connected you feel when you communicate with your partner about sex — and trust me, you’ll both love the results!

Secret #3: Focus on Sensuality

Sensual touch is essential for both men and women to feel sexually satisfied. For men, this may mean taking the time to enjoy kissing, caressing, and massaging their partner’s body. For women, sensual touch can help them feel more relaxed and in the moment, which can lead to more enjoyable sex. Part of the sensual experience is for both of you to say things on occasion during sex, and this is for the men, your partner loves to hear you make sounds of pleasure from time to time.

Secret #4: Be Willing To Experiment

Trying new things in bed can be scary, but it can also be really exciting. If you’re willing to experiment with your partner, you may find that you enjoy things that you never thought you would. Plus, it’s a great way to prevent your sexual relations from becoming boring. As long as both partners are on board, experimenting is a totally normal thing to do. For example, if you’ve been having missionary-style sex for months or years on end, why not switch things up by trying some other positions? You might find that this helps spice up your love life and brings new excitement into the bedroom! Even bringing in some toys that both of you agree on. Most importantly though, don’t be afraid to talk about what feels good and what doesn’t feel good during sex.

Secret #5: Never Give Up On Each Other

Just because the initial excitement of a new relationship has worn off doesn’t mean that your sex life has to suffer. In fact, some couples find that their sex life gets even better as they get to know each other better and become more comfortable with each other. However, if you’re not careful, it’s easy for the spark to die out. That’s why it’s important to never give up on each other.

Give your partner time to open up about what turns them on, how they like to be touched, what type of foreplay feels best for them, and so forth. Doing this will make it easier for both of you to communicate about what makes sex satisfying for both partners without worrying about judgment or embarrassment. Remember that sex is all about communication between partners. With that in mind, take the time to share everything that’s important and try different things together!

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