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Communication taboos that everyone should know about the office

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By KurandaPublished 2 years ago 12 min read
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Communication taboos that everyone should know about the office
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Talking in the office is not as casual as at home or in society, some of the things you should not say will cause you a lot of trouble and even affect your future.

The following words should never be said in the office.

1. a taboo on the clouds, no voice of their own

Their real appreciation is those who have brains, and opinions, and if you often just what others say and Open also say words, you are easy to be ignored by the leadership and the boss, and your position in the office will not be high where, so regardless of your current position high and low, have some of their voice to say their ideas

2. two avoid talking and communicating as a debate

In the office and with colleagues to get along with a low profile, speak in a conciliatory manner, even if you have reached a certain level, it is best not to use the tone of command to speak with others, even if we do not agree, there are opinions can also be reserved, and even for some of the more principled things, there is no need to fight for a red face, the office as a debate, if a fury of bravado, will make colleagues respect you away.

3. three taboos to telling each other heart to express loyalty

An office is a place of work, not a place of mutual confession, although mutual confession can be closer to each other, can make the relationship between colleagues improve, how many people can not control the bottom line of strict confidentiality; In addition, your crisis, such as lost love, family changes, etc. It is best not to just find someone in the office to confide in, and not talk about right and wrong in the office.

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4. four avoid showing off in the office to show off

Many people get the boss's rewards to show off, a little technical progress to show off, ahead of schedule to complete the work to show off, etc., you know, in the workplace in a strong hand, which day came then you more competent people, you will become the laughing stock of everyone.

5. Don't talk about salary in the office

Usually, each company's salary is confidential, and colleagues tend to have a small difference in salary, if these things are said, will cause a lot of trouble, high envy and jealousy, low envy and jealousy, will mess up the company, if you do not pay attention, maybe the next to leave the company is you.

6. six taboos in the office to talking about personal life issues

On you are out of love or hot love, don't bring emotions to the office, and don't bring the story in, people tend to figure out a moment of mouth pain, and regret afterward, but unfortunately say the words out, splash out the water, never recovered.

7. seven avoid saying ambitious words

In the office to talk about ideals, high-profile discussions on promotion and advancement, their ambitions in front of colleagues to talk about, do not know that your ambitions will be colleagues as a dissident, often turning colleagues into antagonists, in public to discuss these issues without any benefit, sometimes seem you are so simple and comical.

A workplace is a place full of all kinds of subterfuge, and communication between colleagues is the same, in the office and colleagues to communicate, not everything can be said, a little careless, it is easy to offend people, therefore, official communication is to seek the method.

Effective communication is a necessary asset in the workplace, it allows us to work more smoothly and harvest more opportunities for promotion. As a workplace person, you need to master the skills of workplace communication to bring more benefits to your career. However, communication in the workplace is not just a matter of talking, it requires a lot of attention to detail. Introduce a few of workplace effective communication methods, I hope it will help you.

Open and honest treatment of people

In the workplace and colleague interaction, is different from the interaction between the school and classmates.

The interaction between colleagues is relatively complex. But despite this, as long as the principle of openness and honesty, or to be able to communicate effectively with colleagues, to expand their interpersonal contacts in the circle. Therefore, in workplace communication, first of all, you should always be honest with others, so that colleagues feel your honesty, willing to trust you, and communication will be effective.

Second, highlight the focus

Communication in the workplace is not small talk, time is also very valuable, so in the communication process highlight the key points. So, before communication should think about the purpose of this conversation and the core points, that is, you think about the focus and the other party to understand the focus. In communication, let the other party in the first time to understand the focus of your communication, to achieve efficient communication.

Third, try to speak only about the work of the content

In the office, colleagues, communication between the upper and lower levels to work content, and other personal matters usually shut up. Therefore, we only communicate in the workplace things at work, do not complain with the leadership or colleagues about private troubles, and do not say that the company system provides for a variety of bad, only fully discuss the work of the proposal, improve, to reach efficient communication.

think, point to the end

The master does things, does seven points, leaves three points of leeway, and speak is also the same. On the one hand, will not be long words, so that the interlocutor can not digest, this is also respect for people, leaving room for people to think; on the other hand, will not be full of words, the world is not absolute, all things are development and change, leave three points of leeway is a serious and responsible approach. Speak first heart, then to go brain, and finally, to express it, with a good mind, the next step needs to exercise excellent thinking.

Five, communication style is varied

In the process of communication with colleagues, because of the different communication styles and communication preferences of each person

We can use a variety of ways of communication but do not use a single way of communication, resulting in poor communication. Choose a variety of communication styles, taking into account the needs and preferences of the person you are communicating with, and try to choose a way to communicate that makes the other person feel comfortable. Don't just focus on yourself, but pay more attention to each other and try multiple methods to improve the communication experience.

Think differently

Put yourself in the other person's shoes before you speak to them, and then use the appropriate way to communicate with them. This is not contradictory to treating people equally but is a way of showing genuine respect for them. Thinking about what the other person wants to achieve; thinking about what expressions the other person can accept; thinking about the scope of knowledge the other person can understand and using words he can understand; being able to speak and act differently is the watershed in the mindset of the expert and the average person. The most important word in the skill of speaking is "degree", depending on the mindset and thinking.

To leaders

When speaking to leaders, be concise and clearly express what you have to say; after you have made things clear, you can briefly say your analysis of the pros and cons for the leaders' reference; while raising the issue, it is best to provide one or two sets of solutions, so that the leaders can do multiple choice questions instead of quiz questions.

Speaking to a superior

Talk to your subordinates, take care of each other's faces, don't cross each other's professional field and overly point out other people's work; help each other think about the way, put yourself in each other's shoes and consider what kind of help he may need, take the initiative to provide help will have more people willing to help you.

To subordinates

Talk to your subordinates, don't put on a show, although it is a working relationship between subordinates and superiors, from the perspective of personality, you are equal to anyone, respect your subordinates to gain respect; more praise and more encouragement, more praise, words of encouragement, can make the subordinates more motivated. Don't be stingy with your praise; in a way, praising your subordinates is a responsibility you have to take on.

Correct mistakes while giving guidance, when subordinates do not do the right thing, you can not ignore it, nor can you just scold people without teaching them. Pointing out the mistakes of subordinates at the same time must give the appropriate guidance, otherwise, it is not responsible to subordinates.

In short, in the interaction with colleagues, we must always be frank, master certain communication skills, pay attention to the workplace communication taboos, do not step into the minefield. The ability to express yourself comes through learning and is not set in stone. By learning to deal with interpersonal relationships in the workplace in a sensible way, your work speak will bring you more pleasure

We all say a lot of things every day, but being able to speak does not mean that we can communicate. In this particular environment, being able to speak is an important skill. In life, you can communicate casually, but in the workplace, communication needs to be efficient, because the purpose of workplace communication is to solve problems, not to vent your emotions.

Take my friend A, for example, she recently found herself facing a difficult situation at work without the ability to involve her emotions, communicating inefficiently and not solving anything. Sometimes the problems were not solved, but created artificial problems instead. She was distressed by this and kept asking me for advice. I found a lot of common problems in the process of communicating with her, and today I will share three points of experience with you.

The first taboo: do not answer the wrong questions

The first taboo in workplace ace communication is not to answer questions that are not asked, which is a hard wound in workplace communication. This will directly increase the cost of communication. Ask what answer, that communication can be unimpeded.

Little A and others encountered problems at work, at me for help, I gave guidance, and I followed d up after a communication.

Communication example 1

Me: Did you have good communication with so-and-so yesterday?

Little A: Miss, I sent me one this morning I have made it very clear

This answer, I was dumbfounded I do not know how you feel.

So I added. a sentence: And did the communication meet your expectations?

Little A: I think I have a lot of questions!

For the first question, there are only two answers, the communication went well or not so well. The first question, for thee, is only two answers: did the communication go well or did it not go well; if it went well, what was the outcome; if it did not go well, what were the reasons, and what is the next, step to solve the problem?

Thsolvingond question, again, only has two answers, achieved or not achieved. If it was achieved, explain the situation; if it was not achieved, explain the situation and the next step to solve it. But A's answer was still a non-answer, and the result of this communication only gave me negative feedback that my guidance was not helpful and did not solve the problem you were experiencing. If you want to solve your problem further, you can only communicate again and again. The cost of communication is invariably increased again.

Ask what you want and answer what you want, so that it is straightforward and solves the problem. If you don't understand what the other person means, I'll give you a universal sentence pattern: "What you mean is XXXX, I wonder if I understand this correctly?" It also saves you a lot of trouble to further understand what the other person is saying by confirming it and then going back to answer.

Second taboo: don't mix too much personal emotion

Don't get too personal, it's best to get to the point. Once you add your personal feelings and make negative comments about others, congratulations, you will be happy to have a stormy scolding war, but it will not solve any problems.

Communication example 2

A has found a problem at work that needs to be solved by everyone. There are many reasons behind this problem: poor management, unfamiliarity between staff, unclear rules and so on. However, when Little A found the problem, he directly charactcharacterizedthe responsibility of some people, spitting out the problem without giving any real needs. The more you spout off, the angrier you get, yet none of the needs are mentioned. This didn't help and only made things awkward.

Firstly, work groups are set up to facilitate communication and then solve problems, not for personal griping. Secondly, when a problem is identified, a better mode of communication is something like, "I've found something wrong and what I'd like everyone to do to help me fix it together". This is asking the question and giving a specific need, and people will naturally help you solve it when they see what you need.

If it is indeed someone's responsibility, then the communication pattern goes something like this, "So-and-so, I think there is a little problem with what you are doing with this, and I need you to do this xxxx to improve it and fix it within the XXX deadline." The problem is solved and the person's reprimand is decided aftafterwardtherwise a person is not motivated to solve the problem in any way when they are denied and discouraged.

This communication situation applies to general staff as well as co-ordinators

We hope that this has been helpful to our partners. What's more, I hope that partners can apply such content to their actual work, so that we can create a harmonious team atmosphere in cordial communication, so that we can create an atmosphere of mutual recognition, mutual appreciation, mutual encouragement, and mutual collaboration in a cordial communication, so that our communication can create value for us and create a smooth path of development for us in general.

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