Some have a dream and complain that they can’t fulfill it, others follow it until it happens

What I will write in this article is a projection of my inner world, my mental patterns, and my life experience so far. Please do not take what I will write as an absolute truth but only as a personal opinion, a part of what I think and what I am, a part that I share with you.

I recently read an article by my friend Mioara Soldan, the founder of the Pleiades Coaching School, about the movie A Family man and about the 8–8–8 rule (8 hours of professional life, 8 hours of private life, 8 hours of sleep), a rule that can lead to depression, lack of meaning, family problems and poor quality of life in general.

I don’t follow this rule, almost every time, because of money, or more precisely because of the need for money and the lack of alternatives in generating the money necessary for living, apart from a classic job of 8 hours a day.

Even a classic 8-hour job can easily mean 10 hours a day if we consider the road to and from work, lunch break, and other work-related activities. I’m not talking about overtime when we can reach over 12 hours a day.

And in these conditions, how can we keep the balance of 8–8–8? What can we do? Can we complain? Can we revolt? But they will not solve the problem.

If you are passionate about what you do and your professional activity is based on your natural desires, aspirations, and inclinations, I don’t think it bothers you too much to disobey the 8–8–8 rule.

But if that’s not your case, then what are you going to do? I hope your plan is not to conform docilely and wait quietly until retirement (because our generation will not get a pension in the sense it is today).

Nothing will solve the problem until we decide to solve it, paying the right price.

The temporary imbalance that brings you long-term balance

As often as we need a crisis in our lives to make a substantial change, just as we need a period of confusion in the coaching process to have an important awareness, so we need a temporary imbalance before we get there. in balance.

If you are not satisfied with the relationship between your personal and professional life and you want to reach that ideal 8–8–8, you have two options:

1. To be dissatisfied and to complain about the situation, to complain that something is wrong with the way society works and that life is not right.
2. To propose with all your heart, and with all your strength, that you will change things. Not today, not tomorrow, but in 1 year, in 2, in 5, in 7 — in how many years it takes.

If you’re in the first category, I can’t help you. Nobody can. You have already chosen your destiny and destination. But if you are in the second category, you should read on.

Pay the price and take your destiny into your own hands

… As it is natural to do it, as you were built by mother nature to do it.

I have noticed that in life, everything is possible (as positive thinking books steam us nicely) IF you are willing to pay the price.

This “EVERYTHING is possible” can take the form of a business you want to start from a passion, it can take the form of a change of profession or achieving financial independence. This is just to take a few examples closer to the purpose of the Money Science blog.

Every great thing, for you not for anyone else, has attached a price, a bold action, a discipline, a temporary pain that you have to endure.

This temporary pain is due to getting out of the comfort zone, changing mental patterns and habits, giving up certain attachments, facing certain situations, extra effort, and often the sacrifices you have to make.

Most people avoid this temporary but long-term pain and prefer the warm, continuous, but bearable pain of frustration.

If you are dissatisfied with the relationship between personal and professional life and especially if your professional life is not to your liking, it does not bring you meaning, passion, and a crazy desire to start your work on Monday morning, my question for you is:

What are you going to do?

More importantly:

What price are you willing to pay?

If 10 hours a day seems like a lot, but 4 more hours, into working on your dream;

If the weekend seems short, take one of the weekends and dedicate it to your dream;

If the holidays are too few, dedicate half of them to your dream;

If you are not satisfied with how much money you spend today, cut it in half and invest the rest in yourself, in your business, in reserves, and investments for your future.

Make a plan and execute it until it happens

See exactly what you want, make a plan, and execute it until the crack, the obstacles, not you.

No, you won’t spend time on TV, you won’t watch too many shows, you won’t hang out with friends more than once a month, you won’t waste time on Facebook, you won’t respond to invitations that don’t serve you goals, you will give up the relationships that only eat your time, you will give up the time spent in vain listening to idiots.

What is essential you will keep time for what is important to you, education, family, best friends, and time to relax which you will RELAX. You will have no choice.

And yes, it will be tiring, yes, you will be sleepy, yes, it will hurt, yes, you will give up mentally and physically sometimes. It is not easy but you will make all these efforts and sacrifices temporarily, to reach your goal, to live the life you want.

Do what others don’t do today to live tomorrow like others can’t — Zig Ziglar

And yes, then you will have the right to complain sometimes, when it falls in the evening, after a full day in which you did everything you could for your dream.

Embark on the journey of the hero

To fulfill your dream, you will need to postpone your rewards, and it will matter most how strong your will is, how much pain you are willing to endure, how much you are willing to step out of your comfort zone, how much you can be bold in the face of the storm and obstacles and excuses, how willing you are to make difficult decisions.

And yes, as long as you are willing to fight ALONE for your dream because you will be alone, in moments of maximum pressure. No one is obliged to fight for your dream and no one is obliged to make your path easier.

And yes, those in your home will be scared of what you are about to do and will try to pull you back to comfort and familiarity, no, not because they don’t want the best for you, but precisely because they want the good in your mind. I think they keep you safe.

Of course, there will be people who will encourage you, guide you, and be your mentors, friends, and companions. Courage, will, and perseverance will always be rewarded.

According to the law of equilibrium, the greater the obstacles, the greater the aid. The only thing that matters is that you stay on your way.

And yes, the time will come when you will relax, you will enjoy the victory, and you will gain inner peace.

As one blog reader put it: “Some people have a dream and they complain that they can’t fulfill it and others go after it.” Whoever cracks, it remains for everyone to interpret as they wish. I choose to break all the obstacles in the way of my dream because I have a greater will than any of them.

What about you?