Did You Ever Have a Toxic Boss?

Have you ever wondered why work has begun to seem like an ordeal that you have to live with every day?

In our love relationships, we are natural and behave as we are. We know each other, we know them, we can express our own opinions whenever we feel the need.

We sometimes censor ourselves for various reasons, some opinions remain in the stage of thoughts and we fail to relate to those around us. Conflicts occur at work.

And not because you're not good enough at what you do or don't try hard enough, but because your boss isn't just happy with you. Have you ever wondered why work has begun to seem like an ordeal that you have to live with every day? Have you ever dealt with a toxic boss? Do you know the typical behavior of such a boss?

General portrait of a toxic boss

If you are never appreciated, motivated, insults and screams are constantly addressed to you without having provoked them, if they intimidate or treat you with superiority, if they prevent you from completing your tasks, if you have to to stay overtime very often, if he is ubiquitous to supervise your activities, then you are dealing with a toxic boss.

And not just a few hours … but at least 40 hours a week and many months a year.

Toxic boss traits

Some people like the job they have and yet they have been forced to resign. Why? Because some bosses don't give up on the idea of ​​making their lives miserable for their employees. And when they are under constant pressure from their boss, they quit their jobs.

If you have proposed certain professional objects that you do not want to give up because of an unbearable manager, approach the problem from another perspective. Do not give up! Learn to know his personality very well and anticipate his movements. You can attack him with your weapons, in a very diplomatic manner.

But there are several types of toxic bosses that you can recognize by their behavior:

• The demanding boss is the type of boss who does not hesitate to give deadlines over deadlines (some even impossible to achieve in time), refuses the days off you are entitled to, focuses on the results to the detriment of employees, never gives justice to the employee, does not offer praise even if they are deserved, has an omniscient and intimidating attitude, assumes the merits and results of the employee, wants a docile and malleable employee, does not encourage ingenuity and originality, has certain stereotypes from which he can not get out, does not accept vociferations and points from a different point of view, it is oriented towards criticism and transmits negative energies to employees as well.

• The absent boss is the boss you never find when you need him. He is a narcissistic and egocentric person, so preoccupied with his person that he forgets about others.

He doesn't care about your accomplishments, he doesn't care what you do, he doesn't support you, he doesn't get involved in training or team bullying activities. It does not encourage promotion or competition between employees. What about motivating employees to perform their tasks with pleasure and competence? Not to hear of such a thing …

The perfectionist boss is never satisfied with himself, and neither are his employees.

He checks the employees' projects in blood, modifies and cuts even when it is not the case, he has the impression that he does the work of others, he does not know how to manage his time, he is oriented towards criticism and sarcasm, he assumes with superiority the position he has, makes clear distinctions between senior and junior staff, finds mistakes when they do not exist.

He always attributes a failure of the company to the employees, not to his person.

• The careless boss is the boss who doesn't like to take risks and lets his employees do it for him. It does not give feedback and does not encourage enthusiasm at work. Its employees can be demotivated, and this effect is seen in productivity well below average.

• The unbearable boss will always put sticks in your wheel and will not hesitate to put you in embarrassing and humiliating situations or to use insulting words even in the presence of others.

He thinks you are privileged if you work for him and do not distinguish between personal life and work. He tends to exaggerate, screams get angry, blushes externalizes his ailments without the slightest restraint and control. He criticizes others, but not himself, and does not temper his outbursts.

How to deal with a toxic boss?

When dealing with such a person, the first thing you tend to do is run away. Indeed, nothing to condemn! There is little chance of changing such a person. But you can try to give the relationship a positive turn. Treat him with respect even if you do not always receive respect from him.

Set a goal in your mind and try to focus on it, set in your mind some barriers that the boss can't get over. If he overwhelms you with impossible tasks, politely refuse him and tell him to set your priorities. If you are dealing with an invisible boss, let them know that his lack of support affects your work. Politely inform him! Don't be easily intimidated by authoritarian bosses.

Try to have good results in the activities you do. If you are successful in what you do, you will avoid any dissatisfaction and criticism of yourself. Communicate your offers, but without hesitation and threats of resignation. Explain the problem in the most objective way possible.

He did not interpret his offensive attitude as an attack on himself and tried to look at the problem more easily. His attitude is strictly about his way of being, not your person. If you are dealing with a perfectionist, make him trust your skills and competencies. Inform him about your accomplishments before he begins his diligent research and verification work.

Express your opinion on his / her offensive behavior in the most polite and unprovoked terms possible. You don't go to other superiors to complain until the situation gets out of hand. Attack the careless boss by proving that you care. Ask him for a concrete evaluation, ask him questions so that he will have to answer you.