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Building habits

Why is it so difficult? (Don’t mind my rambling).

By Jen PhillipsPublished 3 months ago 3 min read
Building habits
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It’s that time of year again- the time of year were we come together and say what we are grateful for, and what our compliments were for this year. Which leads to envy and jealousy because someone else accomplished a lot over the year.

We then talk about plans and goals we have set for the following year; usually by mid-February those plans and goals we set for the year have somehow been pushed to the back of the closet- cease to exist.

Personally, I think part of that is the goal the end game- the results of accomplishing smaller goals in order to get to the end goal.

By February and seeing little to no progress, humans naturally get bored and depressed about it- giving up before the good happens and not enjoying the progress. People tend to forget things get ugly before they get beautiful. There’s always a rainbow after a storm.

I think that's part of why there are a lot of the winter blues around mid-February/ March because people are seeing no results in the little progress they have made.

It is hard to keep goals if we are being honest with ourselves but developing habits is key to the game of completing goals. Getting up brushing your teeth and washing your face are habits. If you are a person who wants a skincare routine in the morning- adding a few extra steps is one of those things where the end game goal is to have a flawless complexion.

If the end game goal is to lose weight- remember what needs to come first before the weight starts coming off. Exercising and the correct foods according to what your body needs. So, that could look like going for walks at the beginning of your day and after dinner. Going for a walk on your lunch break instead of sitting in the lunchroom. Not saying you can't relax on your break but remember what your end game goal is and the little habits you can develop can help younger to your end game goal.

It takes on average 21 days for someone actively doing something to become a habit. I have my own personal end-game goals and I'm using the last two months of this year starting on some habits to help me get through the next year. Like getting up a little earlier than usual to be able to journal and meditate/yoga before I carry off to work for the day.

I use these in hopes of encouraging myself to add a few extra good habits to my day and shake off the old bad habits that aren't really doing me anything good. I'm secretly trying to avoid the winter blues and get a head start on developing good habits for myself. I aim for success in making it through the tough part of developing good habits, sticking to them and not falling back into old/bad habits that are just making me miserable.

What point is it to live a life where you spend too much time being miserable? Life is too short to have shitty habits, not accomplishing anything and being miserable. Who wants to spend a lifetime on that?

If the last 3 years of the planet being set on fire and put back together has taught me anything is that sitting around on tiktok for hours doesn't really get you anywhere. Besides being addicted to white claws and buying things off TikTok I don't really need.

How to get to end-game goals:

  1. Figure out what it is you want.
  2. Figure out a game plan for that goal
  3. Develop good habits and get rid of the bad habits.
  4. Set alarms and sticky notes to remind yourself to keep on track.
  5. Slowly switch out things that help you develop habits.
  6. Keep on pushing even when you are stuck. Sometimes you just need a new light bulb to see better.

Everything is in your head. Everything and anything can be accomplished if you put your mind to it.


About the Creator

Jen Phillips

Having a creative imagination has no limitations. My favourite past time is just dumping all my thoughts on to paper and seeing where it goes.

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  • Naveed 3 months ago

    . I was pleasantly surprised by the quality of your writing

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