Be wary of these 3 workplace taboos and you'll easily gain goodwill

The restaurant where W works part-time had a young girl after 00 years, and everyone was expecting the newcomer to improve the shortage of staff.

But within two days, almost everyone was reluctant to work with her, and even the chef who was teaching her couldn't take it anymore.

The comments that reached the manager's ears were.

"She's too old-fashioned and doesn't listen to what she says, so she's impossible to lead."

"She talks too much, she's too annoying when she's busy."

"When she is asked to entertain a guest, she can talk to them for more than 20 minutes, and they are frowning and still can't carry on."

It can be seen in the workplace, no work experience, not being smart enough, and not being hardworking will not make people bad, but can not talk is enough to lose goodwill, so colleagues have to stay away from you.

01. workplace taboo, old love is good again do not always hang mouth

After the first day of the restaurant report, the manager sent a veteran employee B to teach, once to learn, and once to practice.

B put down his work to stand next to her to guide her on which cup to put what drink, she was full of care back: "this I will all, your shop's not as complicated as the drinks I learned before."

B taught her that ice cream had to fill the cups to serve the customers, and she said, "In my old shop, the ice cream was better to dig into than yours, yours was too soft."

After A left work, B, who was teaching her, couldn't help but complain, "If her previous job was so good, why did she have to come and work for us? You say she has the experience, right, and the error rate is still high."

It turned out that A had previously worked in a popular beverage shop, so she had the advantage of working part-time in a restaurant.

There's a saying in the love world that you should never talk about your current job in front of your current one unless you want to become one.

The most taboo thing to do is to compare yourself with your predecessor, which will make your predecessor feel like a stand-in for you and get no respect and will also make your predecessor feel unsettled by your nostalgia for him.

Little A made this mistake, comparing everything she does with her previous job as if she were saying that her current one is not as pretty, not as capable, not as good as her predecessor, and not as good at everything.

On the contrary, C, who joined the restaurant later than her, is better liked, and although she has worked in a similar position before, she says this.

"I've been in this position before, but not for long, but I'll catch up as soon as I can, so please teach me more, B."

When others are taking a break to chat, she also asks B, who is teaching her, carefully, and because she is so studious and humble, B is more than willing to teach her, so she gets up to speed quickly.

You can learn from the experience of your predecessor's work and use it in your new job, but don't mention your predecessor too often in front of your current one.

02. You shouldn't have a glass heart in the workplace, but you shouldn't be a steel nerve either

As A is only working part-time at the restaurant, the hours at the Netflix restaurant where she works change frequently, which causes a lot of problems for the restaurant's scheduling manager.

The scheduling manager requested that the hours available for part-time work be reported to her a week in advance to facilitate her scheduling, but Xiao A was too arbitrary, wanting to work the morning shift at one time and the evening shift at another, and had to call the scheduling manager privately to change the part-time hours every time she saw the shift schedule announced.

The scheduling manager couldn't stand it anymore and complained to the shop manager, who approached her about the situation. She complained to the shop manager: "The shop manager over there doesn't set my working hours, I can't do anything about it, I told the scheduling manager as soon as I received the notice, what's my problem?"

The shop manager later found out that 00 had "harassed" almost everyone in the same position as her, and had called B every night to change shifts so that B had simply blacked her out.

Three days later, A was assigned to work with B, and she asked B: "Master, why have you blacked me out? I still want you to tell the manager for me that I want to work the evening shift." It made B very embarrassed and he could only use the excuse that he had deleted it by mistake as an excuse to put it off.

In the workplace, people with a strong sense of obtuseness tend to be more successful because they don't waste their time with emotions brought on by a glass heart, but focus on their things, and are therefore more likely to achieve results.

However, people who are too blunt tend to ignore the feelings of others and speak more to themselves, often offending people without realizing it.

Xiao A's desperate calls in the middle of the night have constituted a kind of "harassment", and people have no choice but to black her out when they can't stand it.

She doesn't understand that in the adult world, not responding is already responding, and instead, she asks people to her face why they have blacked her out.

Perhaps when she has a conflict at work, she says to her shift manager.

"Manager, I'm very sorry, but my hours are not yet set, but I'm sure they'll be XX hours.

The result may be completely different.

03. Give up violent communication and try to express yourself calmly

Xiao Xin came to me a few days ago to complain that she had been unable to communicate properly with the shop manager at work, saying that the shop manager always liked to deny her opinions, making her feel that she was doing the most but not getting recognition, which was super aggravating.

A few days ago, the shop manager put her in charge of packing and dispatching meals, and Xin suggested that the boxes should be packed separately to facilitate the dispatching of meals. How do you know it won't work if you haven't tried it?"

She then opened the boxes in her own way, which turned out to be a reasonable suggestion, and the food was dispatched quickly and well, but she didn't even get a compliment from the manager.

As stated in Nonviolent Communication, people always express themselves through criticism and accusation in communication, but behind this is still an unmet need.

The reason why Xiao Xin dislikes the shop manager is that her need to be recognized has not been met, and she wants the shop manager to agree with her and to see what she is thinking.

However, this approach will not get her the response she expects but will backfire. This way of speaking back will attack the other party like a bullet, making them choose to refuse to communicate due to their self-protective instincts, and will give them the impression that you are not a good person to get along with, which is a hindrance to people.

So how do we express our opinions and feelings correctly? We can use a non-violent way of communication, agreeing with the other person's point of view before we say our own.

For example, when the shop manager says she doesn't think it's appropriate to separate the packing boxes, you could say something like.

"I think you're right to be concerned. I suggested splitting the boxes because I wanted to speed up the dispensing process, can I try that? If it's not appropriate, we'll improve it."