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Miss Chanandler Bong

A toast to Matthew Perry

By Meagan DionPublished about a month ago 3 min read
Top Story - October 2023
Miss Chanandler Bong
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Let's sit together on the burnt-orange, mohair couch in our favorite bustling coffee shop, Central Perk. Let's raise a mug of piping hot coffee to our friend and comedic legend, Miss Chanandler Bong, I mean...Matthew Perry. What a gift he had and what a wonderful legacy he has left behind.

My oldest sister is fifteen years older than me. Both my parents worked when I was an elementary student in the 90's and I often would go to my sister's house after school. Countless days of my childhood, even though I was probably too young to watch Friends, or at least too young to understand, were filled with the song "I'll be there for you." I watched these friends dance around and in a running fountain. I always thought they looked like they were having so much fun.

Of course the comedic timing of Chandler Bing was side splitting and he quickly became my favorite on the show. The speech patterns and sarcasm delivered flawlessly by Matthew have left indelible traces on my own. Often while watching Friends it dawns on me that as a young blossoming youth I grabbed onto something he said and made it part of my own language and humor. I wonder how many other personalities were shaped by his influence.

As an adult I was left broken when my mother died in 2017. I came to realize the path before me was a dark and twisted one and I wanted to turn around. I went through a few dark T.V shows before that, Sneaky Pete and Daria, in an effort to find catharsis, but the negativity had obviously hindered, not helped. So, I watched Friends instead and spent my evenings laughing because of Matthew Perry. Even though it was small, it was one way I changed my mindset at a difficult time and eventually made it back to a path of light.

Of course we know him best from playing Chandler, but he also had several other projects. Some were incredibly successful and some didn't go past the first season. My favorite of all them besides Friends, was a short lived dramady called "Go On," in which Matthew plays a widower who starts seeing his dead wife. The story follows his journey with his grief support group while he continues to hallucinate about his wife's presence. Man I wish they'd continued that. It opened my eyes to the world of grief and therapy while still making me laugh. It was both informative and amusing. That show was pure gold.

I haven't read his memoir yet, but I intend to. I'm immensely proud of him for looking his demons in the eye and calling them out by name. I love that he dragged them out onto the red carpet, for the world to see and declared that they were there. It takes guts to be raw and honest.

As a writer who is writing a memoir about raw and honest things, I look at his example and know that I can do the same. I haven't read it, but the way it has been received by the world sends a message to people who hurt, like me, that it is a time in which we can lay our demons on the carpet and let people see them. I know from Matthew's example that honesty and perseverance are welcome and rewarded in this world.

I'm saddened by his death, truly the world has lost something special. And as the world waits to hear from authorities regarding a cause of death, I, like millions, am hoping it wasn't at the hands of his demons. Even if it was, the life he lived, the impact he had on so many won't ever be erased.

It is for all of these reasons, and for so many other lives I know he has touched, that I raise a mug, to Matthew Perry, comedic genius, companion in the darkness, Friend.

Could he BE more of a legend?


About the Creator

Meagan Dion

My life is a little crazy. Four kids, homeschool, hotel clerk, write, create and coffee. Coffee is a verb. Do you coffee? I aspire to blow glass and finish / publish my novel. I would like to have an impact. Also, coffee.

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  • Mother Combs29 days ago


  • Tiffany Gordon about a month ago

    This is a Beautiful Tribute! Wonderful job!

  • You preempted my intended comment with your last line. I had planned to type, "Could you BE any more on target?" (I guess I still did, lol.) To Matthew, I raise my mug of chai latte & say, "Salut!"

  • The Dani Writerabout a month ago

    It's always a uniqueness/serendipity combination having a profound impact on our lives that I find intriguing. It's being blindsided in a good way. Who'd a thunk it? Top story congrats! Only if you'd like...tell me what you think Matthew Perry would say to you now after reading your story?

  • Rachel Deemingabout a month ago

    Great tribute, Meagan. He was very funny and it is so sad. I'm going to read his memoir too. His sarcasm resonates with a Brit as it seems to be in our genes and Friends is one of those go-to shows where you know that you will have half an hour of fun and frivolity. That show was stellar.

  • Karen Caveabout a month ago

    Beautiful :) Your beautiful words help me find my own x

  • Kenny Pennabout a month ago

    Great tribute to a wonderful comedian. The world lost someone special

  • Poppyabout a month ago

    It’s so tragic. I still can’t really believe it. This is a great tribute to him though!

  • Lana V Lynxabout a month ago

    Such a great tribute to Matthew you wrote. I loved him in Go On as well and also wish they didn't cancel that show. I will really miss him. I've seen pictures on the Internet yesterday where he was grayed out as a ghost in Friends shots, one of the six, and it made me really sad.

  • Lamar Wigginsabout a month ago

    💖 This is such a nice tribute. Matt is smiling down on us at all the outpouring of love. He will truly be missed. Thank you.

  • Abdullahabout a month ago

    Glad to reading this article

  • Doc Sherwoodabout a month ago

    I remember him as the baddie in a terrible film called She's Out of Control, 1990 I think, just as Courtney Cox had played a teenage heroine two years earlier in Masters of the Universe. However, as you rightly say, it was with Friends that the great Matthew Perry found his place in our hearts, and there he will always remain.

  • Paul Stewartabout a month ago

    I loved this. So much sadness. Sorry for the loss of your mother, though, on a personal level. This is a perfect tribute to a man that went through a lot. I still need to read his memoirs, but he reminds me so much of Robin Williams in a sense. Always looking to make us laugh, when he's shrivelling up inside. Facing his demons, made me feel a sense of pride for someone I only know through the television. I've got my own addiction issues, so was pleased that he was showing the ugly reality that is sometimes life. Well done on a wonderful and poignant Top Story!

  • Dharrsheena Raja Segarranabout a month ago

    I'm so sorry for the loss of your mom 🥺 Glad watching Friends lifted your mood. He will be missed!

  • Brin J.about a month ago

    As I read this, I realized it was an eulogy... What a hard reality to face. When we watch Friends now, it'll be like watching a ghost. I know he's obviously not the first celebrity to die, but his death is the first I've grieved over like I lost someone dear to me... My heart is shattered. Thank you for these words of farewell. <3 The world feels darker without him.

  • Dana Stewartabout a month ago

    Lovely tribute, thank you for writing this. Such a sad loss. This show was so influential in my life. We were so invested in these characters, their lives were ours. Chandler Bing was my favorite, too. I enjoyed readout walk down memory lane.

  • Judey Kalchik about a month ago

    I enjoyed your perspective and am glad that you found healing through his work

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