Flirt With Your Crush

Having a crush is so exciting—maybe you get butterflies in your stomach when you see them, maybe your hands get a little clammy, and maybe your mood improves right away. Flirting with your crush is the next step to let them know that you’re interested, but it can be tough to work up the courage to do so. With a little confidence and some practice, you can talk to your crush in a fun, flirtatious way that shows off your personality!

Open with an interesting first message.

A simple message like "hey" or "what’s up?" is easy to type out, but it might not lead to a very interesting conversation. Try to open up with a funny line, a goofy picture, or an inside joke between the two of you.[1]

• For example, try finding a funny picture of an animal with a goofy expression. Send it to your crush along with the line "this reminded me of you" for a playful, funny message.
• Or, find a song that makes you think of your crush and send it to them. Ask them to listen to it and see what they think about it.
• You could also try an opener about something that happened earlier, like, "Did you see what Mr. Hendrix did today in science class? Worst. Beatbox. Ever."

Ask your crush questions about their life.

You want your crush to feel good about themselves, right? One easy way to do that is to keep the conversation (mainly) focused on them. Ask questions that can’t be answered with a simple yes or no, and avoid topics that are too heavy or might cause an argument. Be comfortable talking about yourself, but don't forget to ask them some basic, non-threatening questions that they can easily talk about, like:

• "So I hear you're a finalist for the district science project? Congratulations! What's your project about?"
• "I'm new to this part of town. What do people around here usually do for fun?"
• "Have any plans for summer break? I think I just might die if I have to stay in my house the whole time."

Compliment your crush on something they’re proud of.

It wouldn't be flirting without a compliment or two. Complimenting tells your crush that you notice and value what they do. Try to stay as casual as possible when you compliment, and pick something that they might be happy about, like an accomplishment or an achievement.

• Try lines like, "You killed it in your soccer game tonight! Maybe you could show me how to score a goal sometime."
• Or, "Congrats on getting the highest grade on the math test! I’d love to learn some of your study tricks."
• Or even, "Your art project looked super cool hung up in the hallway. How long did it take to make?"
• Try to stay away from cheesy pick-up lines, because they’re hard to respond to.

Tease your crush just a little bit.

If you're on friendly terms with your crush, don't be afraid of teasing them a little as a way of flirting. Make sure that they know you're teasing, being ironic, or sarcastic by adding in an emoji or an LOL—over text, it can be hard to tell whether or not someone's being serious.

• Tease them gently about something they're good at/confident about. If your crush is a star athlete, try saying, "So how many extra goals is your team going to score when they don't have you on the field?"
• Or, you could say, "With the high grades you get, I’m starting to wonder if you’re bribing the teachers!"

End the conversation on a high note.

Don't be afraid to cut the conversation short if it's going really well. It's better than leaving the conversation when there's nothing to say or something wrong was said. Leave your crush wanting more rather than wanting less.

• At the end of your conversation, say something like "You're fun to talk to — text me later?" or "See you tomorrow at school?" to build on the progress you made.
• If your crush stops replying to you, don’t assume that they don’t like you. They might have gotten busy, fallen asleep, or accidentally let their phone die.