Why Do We Miss People Who Were Never Really There for Us?

Some people walk away, and we breathe again. Others leave, and it feels like they took the air with them. But what’s strange is when we miss people who hurt us—who were inconsistent, selfish, or never really present.

Why?

Because we don’t just miss the person.

We miss the idea of them.

The version we created in our minds.

The one who could’ve shown up.

The one we wished they were.

Grief isn't always logical. It’s emotional. And sometimes we’re grieving the potential, not the reality.

You’re not weak for missing them. You’re human.

Thank you for reading.

Healing is rarely clean. But every honest step matters.