The Psychology of Love and Letting Go

There were classes in the psychology department of the university. The teacher told the students, I am not teaching today, I am going to do an experiment. Everyone was watching.

The teacher asked a girl sitting in the middle of the class if she was married. The girl was a little shy. She shook her head and said, Sir, I also have a two-year-old son.

The teacher smiled and told the girl, you are the teacher for today. Here, take this marker and write the names of your ten favorite people on the whiteboard.

The girl wrote the names of her ten favorite people on the board. The teacher told her to write who they were on the right side. The girl did so.

Father

Mom

Husband

Son

Older sister

Younger brother

Best friend

3 friends from class

Now the teacher told her to remove three people from this list. She crossed out the names of her classmates.

The teacher smiled and said, "Delete the names of three more people." The girl was a little worried.

The other students in the class were now taking the matter seriously. The girl slowly crossed out the names of her best friend, her sister, and her brother.

The teacher said, "Now delete the names of two more people." The girl's hands were shaking. She hesitantly crossed out the names of her father and mother.

Now the girl was crying. There were only two more people left on the list. They were her husband and her son. The teacher said, "Delete one more person." But the girl was speechless. She said she couldn't delete anyone's name.

The teacher said, "Come on, this is a psychological game. I told you to delete the names of the people I love, I didn't tell you to kill them."

The girl crossed out her child's name with shaking hands.

The teacher went to the girl. He took a gift box from his pocket and said, "I'm sorry for the storm that went through your mind. There are ten gifts for all your loved ones in this gift box. Now tell me, how did you erase these names?" The girl said, "First. I erased the names of my friends, because I still have my family and my best friend. Then, when I was asked to erase more names, I erased the names of my best friend, sister, brother, mother and father. I thought that parents are not forever. An older brother and a younger sister can be separated at any time due to their desires. What should I do if I don't have a best friend....?

My son and my husband are my best friends. But when I was finally asked to remove one of these two, I couldn't decide anymore. Then I thought that my son will grow up and leave me one day, but his father will not leave me.