Each other's crutches

After a big fight over my husband , I decided to go back home to visit my parents alone .

The father , in his late eighties , was playing with the jujube sticks he had carved . My father had taken up this hobby in his early years , but had put it aside while he was busy making ends meet , and now he had picked it up again .

I wanted to help my father clean up the messy house because of the carved crutches , but my father said to me : " Come and sit down , my daughter , are you interested in listening to dad talk about this crutch ? " . So , I quickly moved a stool to sit beside my father , as if back to the childhood tired of father's stories of those days . The father took a jujube with a strange root system just dug up from the mountain and said : " My daughter , to carve a good jujube cane , we must first choose good raw materials . For this jujube growing in the crevices of the rocks , in order to survive , its roots must travel in the crevices of the rocks to form a unique shape of roots . Roots growing in the soil will never grow this shape . After selecting the ingredients , the key is to set the shape . You see this root , many people says that it should be carved in the shape of a dragon , in that case , not only have to change its natural form too much , but also had to artificially add a lot of processes . For root carving , man-made carving , far less than natural . "

With these words , the old father took the scissors and cut off the superfluous roots of the jujube wood and shortened some branches appropriately without changing its original form too much . Then he showed me what it looked like . I found that after simple pruning , the jujube root is alive just like a cow lying down . Although it is not powerful , the folds of the cow's body lying down are naturally formed . Looking back , it looks comfortable . The father continued , " The next step is to remove the bark and carve it carefully . And finally , the most time-consuming step . After each stick is carved , it needs to be rubbed directly with the hand until it is smooth and has a natural glow of yellow and red . This process is like communicating and communicating with a cane . It doesn't happen overnight . Finally , crutches can become human , adult , and can be used in a way that no chemical dye or paint can ." . My father's words calmed some emotions in me . " Think about it , girl . be the two people in this marriage the crutches for each other ? " . Know female father , my old father always when I am frustrated , quietly broke my heart tangled shell .

Yes , two people in marriage are each other's crutches . When choosing each other , no one will choose the one that is neutral and has no personality . They will choose the one that feels different and has a unique personality . But how much chance is there of choosing a compatible personality ? Therefore , people always want to change the other side's thinking mode according to their own ideas , dragging the other sides with their own imagination on the road , regardless of whether he is wearing a pair of shoes suitable for the road . Relatively harmonious marriage , just a kind of wisdom called along with the trend . Just like carving crutches , we can never expect that each can be carved into a dragon , but under the premise of maintaining its nature , a little modification , and accompanied by careful communication and care . In this way , a marriage can shine soft and beautiful like a crutch .

I cooked a delicious meal for my old father and left with a walking stick that my father had carved . I want to tell my husband the story of this crutch , and let this crutch remind us all the time , we support each other , is each other's relies on , is each other's crutch .