Why does the mother wake up in seconds when she leaves the baby?

Before I had a baby, I had imagined countless possibilities, but never thought: since I became a mother, I have properly become a "baby control". Everything in life revolves around the baby, and it's so hard to leave some free space!

What's even harder is that children love to stick to their mothers, even when they are asleep, they must be with them. If you want to quietly get up and do something while he's asleep, then I'm afraid you can only think about it.

The baby's mother said: the baby is more than 9 months, and every time he sleeps sees him already asleep, and he gently wants to bed a toilet. But not to the toilet door, the sound of crying came ...... This is a spell cast on me, otherwise how will be so alert?

The children of Guanma's family were also like this when they were young, as long as I was lying around, he could fall asleep quickly, but I left, usually, less than 20 minutes to wake up. After waking up, I had to pat him back to sleep, but he would still wake up soon after I left. The only way he can get a full night's sleep is to stay with him the whole time.

The child is supposed to be unconscious during sleep, but surprisingly, he is "telepathic" to his mother. The other mother in his sleep, he will sleep peacefully, as soon as the mother leaves, immediately wake up, what is the magic?

Why does a baby wake up when his mother leaves him when he is sleeping?

A Jewish proverb says, "God cannot be everywhere, so he created mothers."

The mother is like God in the child's mind, whose importance cannot be replaced by anyone. Therefore, children need their mothers to be with them at all times to sleep soundly. Why can a child sense his mother's departure when he is asleep? This is mostly related to 3 hidden factors.

The baby smells the "smell" to know the mother is there

Within 3 months of age, the baby's sensory organs are not yet well developed, and the newborn baby cannot see the mother's appearance at all. However, their olfactory organs are quite sensitive and can identify their mothers by their "smell". Especially for breastfed babies, are more sensitive to their mother's smell.

The mother's smell is a kind of security and dependence for the baby, and the familiar olfactory sensory experience makes him feel at ease. But half asleep, half awake, he can not explore the smell of the mother, the brain will release signals so that he produces anxiety, and thus restless, and then cry to attract the mother to come around.

Baby does not feel safe enough

0-1 years old is an important period for babies to establish a sense of security. Psychology believes that positive gratification should be given to babies appropriately to gain a sense of security. What is positive gratification? It means actively satisfying the baby's desire to eat, drink and play, and taking care of the baby's emotions such as happiness, anger, sadness, and fear.

It is natural for babies to be dependent on their mothers, but if babies are given enough security, then this absolute dependence will slowly fade away. The baby subconsciously no longer worries about the mother disappearing and therefore wakes up from sleep less and less often.

After 3 months of age, babies who are often restless and often wake up from sleep because of their mother's absence are most likely a sign of insecurity. The baby is unable to settle down inside and has difficulty falling asleep, which he will find out as soon as his mother leaves.

In addition, the mother often leaves after the baby falls asleep and does not respond in time when she wakes up, the baby will also become sensitive as a result. The Guanma's baby once went downstairs to get a delivery because I was sure he wouldn't wake up for a nap, but the child woke up crying and couldn't find me. Although I tried my best to soothe him afterward, it still inevitably left a shadow in his heart

Change of environment creates a sense of disparity

Many mothers will lie next to their babies when they put them to sleep, holding them with one arm and patting them rhythmically with the other. The temperature, touch, breath, and sound of the mother's body around, giving the baby a warm, restful feeling, can make him sleep peacefully.

But once the mother left, the feeling of solidity brought by the mother also came to an abrupt end, the baby fell asleep, but also can feel the difference. The baby will eventually wake up from his sleep because he realizes that his mother has left.

Sometimes a change in environmental conditions can make your baby feel uncomfortable or anxious. For example, putting the baby you are holding down in bed, covering the baby with a blanket, suddenly switching on and off the light, making a noise accidentally, etc., all these may make the baby wake up from sleep.

How to develop a baby's habit of sleeping alone? Just 4 steps to help you "get out of it"

The book "Happy Families" mentions that "sleeping on your own is an important step in getting your child to learn to be independent.

In the long run, it is only a matter of time before your baby sleeps alone. If the baby's sleep habits are well developed, the mother will be able to "get out of the way" as soon as possible. After all, you can't sleep with them all the time, there's a whole lot of things waiting for them, and who wouldn't want a little free space for themselves? How to achieve this?

The first step is to establish a regular bedtime routine for your baby

The earlier we help your baby establish a bedtime routine, the better for his sleep and growth. Around 2-3 months, your baby can slowly start to set a routine. Follow the routine every day to fall asleep, and over time, a routine will form and become a habit, and your baby will be sleepy by the time you get to the point.

There is no fixed version of the bedtime routine, as long as you think it is feasible and suitable for your baby. For example: take a bath every day before bedtime, play interactively with your baby for half an hour, then eat milk, tell a story, and then let your baby's soothing object accompany him to sleep ......

The second step is to grasp the baby's sleep signal in time

When the baby is sleepy, timely lulling to sleep can make him fall asleep quickly and smoothly into concentration sleep. If you miss the time to sleep, the baby is sleepy over the head, then again lulled to sleep will be half the effort.

So every day at about the same time, we have to pay attention to the baby's sleep signals. Yawning, rubbing eyes, dull eyes, and a sleepy look are all signs that your baby is sleepy.

Step three, create a comfortable sleep environment for your child

Create a comfortable sleeping environment for your baby, including many factors, such as changing your baby into soothing and skin-friendly cotton pajamas, dimming the lights, controlling the temperature at about 25 degrees, 50%-60% humidity is appropriate, keeping the room quiet, playing some soft and soothing music, etc.

A good sleep environment makes the baby relaxed and produces a warm feeling of well-being. This makes it easier for him to sleep peacefully and not be awakened by the slightest movement.

Step 4: Wait for your child to enter deep sleep before leaving

When babies are in light sleep, they are more likely to wake up, which is the root cause of many babies "waking up on the floor". Under normal circumstances, babies will fall asleep for about 15-20 minutes after deep sleep.

After you put your baby to sleep, don't rush to leave, wait for 10 to 20 minutes after your baby enters deep sleep and then leave, so the chance of "rolling over" will be greatly reduced.

In conclusion

The mother is a magical spell that is enchanted in the child's mind and can bring him a constant source of energy. Only children who are nourished by their mothers with love will be able to ride out the storm in their future life.

As a mother, when your baby needs it, please don't let him down with his wholehearted little trust and attachment. Because for every child: the whole world is only when the mother is there!