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Who wore it best?

Comparison, the theif of joy

By Alisha JonesPublished 3 years ago 4 min read
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Who wore it best?
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Red carpet, white lights, and beautiful people are the makings of marvelous night. Awards are given, and hit music is performed. Everyone reminisces about the connection they have with the humanitarian of the evening. Anyone who is anyone knows the location of the private afterparty, and plan to arrive fashionably late to secure an immense entrance. The cameras flash and patrons dance. Everything is everything for just a little while. Unfortunately, sometimes before the sum rises, the opinions and comments of others will dim the accomplishments and bright lights of the paparazzi in the evening before.

Who wore it best? In the spirit of good fun, who looked better? Who do we collectively agree should be ridiculed for how we like their wardrobe selection? See how that sounds? I am just throwing it out there that doing away with the who wore it best comparison would be a truly conducive way to start the new year. Can you believe, In the middle of a pandemic, people are sincerely judging others about their ability to style and wear their selection of clothing? In fact, the practice of comparing ourselves to anyone about anything should come to a screeching halt immediately. This custom of comparing has revealed its natural capability to ransack joy throughout the entire pandemic. Working families are scrutinized for how they spend much needed assistance. Mothers have the towering guilt of handling unprecedented times perfectly. Frankly put, comparing others to determine who wore it best, is equally as silly as comparing the experiences of anyone in this pandemic. And to be honest, it’s just mean.

Did you receive government assistance due to the pandemic? Did you really need it? Did you spend it wisely? The answers to these questions are different for everyone, yet everyone wants to answer them right. People come in all shapes and sizes. Why would our individual experiences be any different? There is no one size fits all solution to navigating this pandemic. Sometimes all we can do is get up, get dressed, and try again. getting dressed, however , has proven to be harder for some stay-at-home mothers these days. Who needs the added pressure of being the best dressed mom? The kids love us matter what we wear, and pajamas are just comfy. Following shelter in place orders makes it hard for anyone to maintain a normal routine, but deciding to get dressed daily has proven to help everyone during these times, especially mothers. As a new stay-at-home mom due to Covid-19 school closings, realizing the need to get out of my pajamas was a life saver with a rocky start. Jeans are not comfortable and gives the kids the assumption we are leaving the house. Leggings daily either force me to work out 3x a day, or lounge on the couch for a regretful Netflix binge. There is no in between. I love my pajamas but getting out of them and loving the skin I’m in immediately makes my day. Is this look ok for today? Am I trying too hard considering I am not leaving the house? Am I doing enough? Comparing my day to day to the supposedly flawless routines and looks of other mothers did nothing but allow me to miss the joy in my own daily routine. Looking fabulous in the confinements of my own home is often the start to a great week. With nothing to compare my natural beauty to but my grace and charm, I am able appreciate my elegance more and more daily.

Ending the ritual of the who wore it best question can put a stop to a lot of irrelevant inquiring and comparing among our peers. Getting rid of this inappropriate question in fashion can spread the public service announcement of certain things we just do not do anymore. In 2021, we will no longer allow the who wore it best mentality to consume us. We will no longer put our best foot forward and feel shame because others appear to be a step ahead. We will get up and be try to be the best version of ourselves only. Who can wear you, better than you?

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