What kind of mothers are most loved by their children? It's not about loving your child with all your heart.

There are many mothers around me who like to complain about how they work hard every day with their children, how they don't like the money and effort they put in, how their children get annoyed and ignore them when they see them, and how some of them like their dads so much that they rarely take care of them ...... They are all sobbing and complaining, making them look like complainers.

They don't understand why this is the case, even if they don't get the credit, they do get the credit, so why are they so unpopular? I have complained too, but what is the point of complaining?

The truth is very simple: "The day is long, the day is short, the day is short". Pots, pans and pots and pans all have bumps and bruises together, not to mention two living people.

The mother has to do all kinds of household chores every day in addition to bringing up the children: laundry, cooking, mopping, grocery shopping, ushering and taking care of the family's life, the good mood has long been worn out in the day-to-day repetition of work, and even she is too lazy to dress up as well as before.

The dads are different, they don't do anything but work and rarely take care of their children.

Does that mean that mothers can only do what they are told and can only complain? According to my practical experience and what I have learnt from books, as long as you master the following skills and put them into practice, you can still change this anxious situation for mothers and make your children like you from the bottom of their hearts.

Mothers must be trustworthy in what they say and do

Trust is the fundamental bond and cornerstone of human connection. Don't look at children, but they are not stupid.

Many mothers are so tired of dealing with their children's pestering that they like to promise them all sorts of things at will but don't deliver. Once or twice ...... more times, your child will stop trusting you because they have saved up enough disappointment.

Even if you do try to keep your promise one day, they will look at you with suspicion, and then the trust will crumble like a building falling down, and it will be difficult to repair.

Remember, no snowflake is innocent in an avalanche. Don't break your trust with your child, that's the deadliest thing of all.

Mothers should not spoil their children too much

Many mothers have only one child, so they treat their children like the apple of their eye and give them their whole being, not realising that such love is too heavy for their children to bear.

This kind of love will only make them arrogant, rude and selfish, as long as they are not satisfied with what you do, they will spill the beans, once you teach them, well, the first one who hates you.

So don't let love get out of hand. It's important that mothers learn to love their children in moderation.

Mothers can keep small pets, such as cats, dogs, ducks and chickens, so that they can learn to give love instead of just asking for it; and sometimes mothers can pretend to love their pets in front of their children, so that they can be "jealous" and take advantage of the "climbing and stimulating" mentality. This will help your child to know that he or she is not the only one who is loved, so that they will take the initiative to "throw themselves at you" to win your affection.

Let your child feel the warmth of their mother

I know this from personal experience.

When my child was very young, she loved to ask "why" and was curious about everything she saw, so I got tired of her asking me questions and simply ignored them.

She never asked me again. Although I was calmer, I felt sorry for her and felt that I had dampened her curiosity. Later, when she started to enjoy drawing again, I made up for my mistake and enthusiastically bought her various learning materials and enrolled her in drawing classes, so that she became very interested in drawing and made great progress. She is also very happy to talk to me about drawing and even encouraged me to learn to draw too.

Whenever we have a conflict, she smiles when I give her a beautiful painting book or a small painting from my heart, and the conflict is easily resolved without me having to say anything.

Mothers talk to their children more often

Many misunderstandings are caused by a lack of communication, so it is important to talk to your child more often, to understand what is on their mind, and to be their confidant, not just their companion.

Many parents who work away from home for long periods of time are particularly interested in talking to their children on the phone or on video to soothe their young minds.

When you look at a family with a good parent-child relationship, you will see that the child is a little talker and the parent is a big talker, and they talk freely together. In families where the relationship is not so good, there is silence and stillness.

Mothers should not always praise other children in front of their own children

Mothers have good intentions and want their children to be better, so they often praise other children, trying to set an example for their own children.

If you don't know this, your child will easily become rebellious and will think that his or her mother doesn't think he or she is good enough, and will have low self-esteem.

The right thing to do is to find your child's strengths and praise them in a timely manner, giving them positive psychological cues and guiding them to improve gradually.

Don't force your child to do something when he or she really doesn't want to

For example, some children, especially boys, do not like to study in primary or junior high school, so parents should not force them to do so.

When they reach high school or university, they will naturally learn without being forced to do so.

There are many examples of this around me, so mothers of boys should not worry too much.

There is also an example of a boy who did very well in primary school, but when he met his friends in junior high school, he did not like to study.

In short, hearts are made of flesh, and what mothers do to their children, children do to their mothers. If a mother truly loves her children, she should see them as individuals and not as your appendages, and give them enough trust, enthusiasm, affirmation, freedom, voice and a sense of belonging, why should they not love you? I believe that by doing the above, mothers will see amazing changes, because mothers and children are connected, because love has echoes!