Want to sleep in a separate room from your child

When it comes to sleeping in separate rooms, many mothers face bitter tears, either the baby cries and refuses to separate, or wakes up in the morning, see the baby holding a small quilt sleeping outside the mother's room, the baby has not cried, the mother has cried into tears ......

In fact, with the child to sleep in a separate room, but also need some small skills, such as.

Before sharing a room, share a bed first

The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that children should be born with their parents in the same room and different beds, and sleep on their own in separate cribs. Bed-sharing here refers to small cribs, not bed-sharing.

This is why some parents add small cribs to their children's beds at birth, which is both hygienic and safe. It also fosters the child's independence from an early age, so that the child is less likely to resist when the time comes to share a room.

If at first there is no bed sharing, for older children (4 months or more) direct bed sharing may be a little difficult, then parents can first add a small crib next to the big bed, usually, you can take the child more familiar with the small bed, and then transition to a small bed and separate rooms after the child slowly get used to it.

Picture books and visits, feel in advance

Children are naturally fond of picture book stories and are good at imitating them, so you can tell your child picture book stories about sleeping in separate rooms before you prepare to share a room.

A few months before the separation, parents can consciously instill in their children the benefits of sleeping in separate rooms, and can also take their children to visit the homes of relatives and friends, little brother and sister's room, so that the child's heart is aspired to.

When the child indicates that he or she wants to sleep in a separate room, be sure to seize the moment.

After sleeping in separate rooms, it is recommended that both parties do not close the door to the room and tell the child that mom and dad will always be there as long as there is a need. At the same time, parents can tell bedtime stories and sing lullabies to their children until they fall asleep and then leave.

Let the child sleep in a separate room in a very happy state, and the child's sleep quality will not be affected.

Loving kisses and toys to increase the sense of security

Before going to bed, you can kiss your child on the forehead or hand and tell your child that this is a loving kiss from mommy and daddy watching over TA.

When you want mommy and daddy, hug, touch love kisses, and wait for sleep to wake up, mommy and daddy will appear. You can also let your child sleep with TA's favorite toy, with the toy, the child will be more at ease.

After the child wakes up, give TA more hugs and tell TA: My baby is grown up, can sleep alone, and is a brave big boy. You are the best baby for mommy and daddy, we are proud of you and praise you.

Be sure to let your child feel that he or she has grown up, grown up, and believes that mommy and daddy will always love TA, and thus sincerely like to sleep in separate rooms.

You can also give your child more hugs and kisses during the day. Physical contact is warmer and more convincing than any word.

Decorate the room with your child

Let your child participate in the whole process of decorating the room and creating his or her own space, which will increase the child's "sense of participation" and "sense of achievement".

For example, let your child pick out the bed, table, chairs, bed sheets, curtains, etc. You can also let your child pick out TA's favorite decorations, such as stickers, favorite toys, ornaments, etc.

If your child decorates his or her room, there will be a sense of familiarity and joy when you walk in, and you won't be so afraid and resistant.

Timely encouragement, not forced

Since we have decided to sleep in separate rooms, we must trust our children and give them time to adapt.

Encourage and reward your child for good work, such as rewarding your child with something he or she has wanted for a long time or taking him or her to the playground to build a sense of beauty; don't scold him or her for bad work, and be patient.

When your child is crying and not willing to share a room no matter how much coaxing, don't throw a tantrum at your child and force him or her into the TA's room, this will only increase the child's fear, helplessness, and sense of abandonment.

I've read that the standard for getting a child to sleep independently is not age, but whether the child is emotionally stable.

It is important not to rush the matter of sleeping in separate rooms with your child, and not to compromise your child's psychology and sleep to do so. They are also part of a healthy child's life.

When parents do the above methods, and then seize the child's willingness to sleep in a separate room point, I believe that everything will fall into place.