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Treat them Mean, Keep them Keen.

By Diana Murray

By Diana Murray Published 4 years ago 2 min read
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Every women knows this worked like a charm on men. (Back before we had kids, of course!)

But, I realize this also works very well on children!

If you are a mum and you want your kids to listen to your instructions, pay attention when you speak to them, be helpful, polite and friendly, and also love and adore you and care about you being happy and not only them being happy, give it a shot.

I’m not saying to be abusive, mean spirited or insulting. Not at all.

Calm down!

All I’m saying is, try playing a little “hard to get”. Let them come to you. Let them make a little effort to impress you if they want you to give them your attention.

Don’t just cater to their every whim and fawn all over them. Don’t let them think they are the be all and end all of your entire existence, or that you are nothing but their mother.

You weren’t born the day you had them!

You had a whole life before that and it was pretty interesting and exciting.

Take care of yourself, so they will look up to you, and be proud to have you for their mum.

Make sure they know how VERY lucky they are to have you and maybe they will start trying to make you happy and show a little gratitude for what they’ve got going on at home! 😂

You are their mother, yes. But you’re also a person. And you deserve to be treated like one.

They will be happier for it and so will you.

Being “nice” all the time is very overrated if you ask me. I did it with my kids for a while and I wouldn’t recommend it.

Children are not really all that different than men. Actually, I should say, men are not that different than children!

We should try to put more energy into helping our children build themselves up and push them towards reaching their full potential. That IS actually our job as their mother!

Instead we often find ourselves wasting our time and energy trying to do that for men, which isn’t our job at all!

Children are like little sponges, full of untapped potential, and it is our job to mold them, teach them, encourage them and help them to be the best they can be.

They are changing and growing all the time. Men, on the other hand, not so much.

Grown men aren’t very likely going to be doing any real changing or growing. The time for that was in the past and is nothing to do with us.

Put your resources and powers towards what will bring positive results.

Don’t waste them on someone else’s fully grown adult child who you have no responsibility for.

If you must be with a man, best to find one you actually like and will be able to tolerate long term - AS IS.

Don’t think that you can miraculously change him, or that he will improve with old age or something 😂😂😂

Focus on the little children and not on a big overgrown man-child who isn’t even yours!

Work smarter, not harder.

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