Tips to Make Visitors

Every new baby brings a lot of visitors. When you should be focusing on learning how to care for your baby, it can be that much harder with people coming and going. This can be quite stressful for new moms and you definitely do not need the stress!

However, it doesn’t have to be this way. Here are some tips to make having visitors less stressful.

Learn to be flexible. Even though you may ask people to call before they show up, there are going to be plenty of people who are just going to just stop by. This may mess up your feeding and sleeping schedule (if you have one yet). You are going to have to learn to roll with these visitors. Try to enjoy these visits, as best as you can!

Though don’t be afraid to tell people no. Most people will gladly call and schedule visits to work around your baby’s schedule. Try to schedule these when your baby is awake and happy.

If you are breastfeeding and don’t want company while you are trying to get the hang of it, you have every right to tell people not to come.

Even if you schedule a visit, we all know how one missed nap or cold can really ruin a day. If you need to turn people away, they will understand (especially if they have already gone through the process). Most would prefer to visit when everyone is feeling good.

That being said, you should also have people that you trust to give yourself a break. New moms don’t get much time to relax and unwind, so whether you don’t feel well, need a shower, or want to take a short nap, don’t be afraid to ask your visitors to watch the baby. They will be happy to cuddle with the baby while you take a little time to yourself.

You probably can’t even imagine how a hot shower and a quick nap can make you feel. These people can really make a world of difference when you are a new mom.

Let people help. Many people want to help in any way they can, especially if they have already done the newborn thing. They know how tired you really are so it is important to let them help.

They can bring dinner when they come, instead of making you cook. If they want to clean up the kitchen, let them. If they offer to take the trash out, clean up your bathroom, start a load of laundry, and much more, more power to them.

This can also be good for those who are not comfortable around babies. If they want to show you that they support you but don’t necessarily feel good holding your newborn, let them help out in other ways.

Most new moms are quite emotional, so make sure that you are comfortable crying around your guests. Don’t invite people that you are not completely sure about. Your coworkers don’t need to see the baby right away. Stick with family and close friends- the ones who already love you despite your emotions and how you look. You want (and deserve) to be comfortable so surround yourself with those that you love.

Though your visitors are going to want to see you, they are mainly there for the baby. For this reason, use their visits to your advantage. Take a shower while they cuddle. Let them bring dinner or do some cleaning for you. Most people just want to help you in any way that they can, even if you don’t feel truly comfortable letting them do so!