The most important four words for a successful marriage: 'I'll do the dishes.'
This Marriage Thing
My husband and I hit that five-year mark just last month. How does it feel you ask? I wish I had a clear answer. They say that if you can make it through the first five years than the marriage has a better chance of lasting, I cannot say that I wholeheartedly agree with that statement.
Married Couple 101: 6 Ways to Keep the Passion Alive
“Omg, why are they still so lovey dovey after so many years of marriage?!” Not sure if you have similar thoughts towards some married couples before, but I certainly did. The thing is, we all know the importance of passion during our dating days. But it is still, if not more, applicable and necessary when one is married. Only if the fire is still kept alive and going strong in one’s marriage will the couple be able to last long.
Married at 22
Hello there! I am 22 years of age and happily married. I am madly in love with my best friend, my career is only just beginning to form (any support is appreciated!), and I have everything still ahead of me. Life is good!
Journey to Another Country
In 2012, I met a man online (seems to happen more often nowadays), that would forever change my life in ways I couldn't foresee. He proposed in 2013 and in early 2014, we were married. We originally planned for him to move to the US as my family is larger than his. I'm also very close to my family and the thought of moving away from them sent my anxiety into overdrive for a while.
Maid or Matron
A wedding, however big or small, requires a certain amount of planning. Brides and grooms decide where they want to marry, when they want to marry, and who they want to attend. These are the big, obvious things, but what about the details? The bride has chosen her bridesmaid but what, exactly, does the bridesmaid do? What does the chief bridesmaid do, and what is the difference between a maid of honour and a matron of honour?
Mother-in-laws! Sometimes they are great and supportive, sometimes you get one that despises you. Unfortunately, I got the latter. I love my husband, but his mother is absolutely the thorn in my side. She is very judgmental, selfish, and opinionated. I am a young mother to a wonderful 22-month-old boy. I am also a full-time college student. I don't work right now because my husband and I both agreed that I should focus on my studies and our son. My mother-in-law hates that I stay home. She is one of those types of people that you can never please though. Right now, her argument is that if I stay home, we will miss out on the extra income. But if I went back to work she would hate the daycare I choose, or think I'm not spending enough time on my son.
My husband and I never thought we would marry each other ever. I grew up in a black Christian family. And he grew up in mostly a Salvation Army church with a white mother and a Hispanic father. People ask us both these questions all the time. Why did you not marry a black man? Why did you marry a black woman? Why marry someone that is white and Hispanic? WHY?
Married with No Handbook
I met my Husband when I was 18 years old. I was a Freshman in college and he was the finest Sophomore on campus. If you ask him, he noticed me way before I noticed him, inquiring with others about who I was. When we finally spoke on the phone, our conversations lasted for hours, he told me he was interested in getting to know me better, my response was "I'm an obstacle course." Who would have known that four years later we would end up married. Let me not ruin the story.
What can I say about my husband? He is one of my best friends. I don't know what I would do without him. I remember the first time we officially met. It was November of 2009, I was talking to some of my friends before we went to class. And then my friend Cody said,"Hey Shante, Colorado is looking at you." I turned around and saw this tall guy with curly hair walking all smooth towards me. I kinda cringe at him and then asked my friends,"Who is that guy?" "All I know is his brother is named Caleb and that he is in Cross Country. Since his brother's name starts with a C, maybe his name starts with a C also." So my friends and I start blurting out names. "Carlos!" shouted Cody. "Chuck!" I shouted after Cody. Then Joe decided to be funny and shout out, "Roberto!" Cody and I laughed and shook our heads. Then I turned around, and there he was staring into my eyes. He put out his hand and said, "Hi, my name is Charles." I turned back to my friends, and we just shook ours heads and said,"Not even close." Fast forward to senior year in high school. We became REALLY close friends. He would greet me with a hug every morning. As a gentleman, he would be 5 minutes late to every class just so he could walk me to my classes. We liked each other very much. But we went different ways. We dated different people who were not a very good match for us. Then it happened, July 28th, 2011, we started dating. Our journey of dating had ups and downs. We broke up and got back together so many times. And then we decided work together to help our love get strong again. When our love started to get strong again, he surprised me and proposed to me. It was our last day in June 2015 at our home church, and as we were saying goodbye to our friends and family. He took my hand and said,"Honey, I didn't think that our love journey would come to this. I love you so much. And I don't wanna live another day without you in my life." That is when he took my hand, got down and one knee and said,"Shante Briana Johnson, will you do the honor and be my wife?" All I could do is cry and cry. I finally shook my head and said,"YES!!" Now it is our wedding day, 3 months later. Our families are sitting outside waiting for me to walk down the aisle. My dad took my hand and walked me down to my soon to be husband. As we said our vows, all I wanted to do was kiss him and go on our honeymoon. When they finally announced us husband and wife, we thanked everyone and we went on our honeymoon. Then a week or two after our honeymoon, we found out we were expecting.(Little did I know I was 2 1/2 months pregnant with our son Joseph). April, 2016, our son was born into the world. My husband really helped me through everything with our son. Then we had our daughter in August, 2017. I don't know what I'd be doing if it was just my kids and I. My husband has been there for me for everything. My happiness, sadness, and anything you can name. I have to say, I have the best husband in the world. I love you Charles Hernandez! Thank you for being an awesome husband and an amazing father to Joseph and Isabella. We love you!
Tired as a Mother...
I'm tired, and not like the normal tired. The tired of being a mom, tired of being a student, tired of being a wife, tired of being tired. I'm busy, like always, if I'm not taking care of kids, getting my husband set up for the day or doing schoolwork, then I'm doing laundry or cooking or doing something. When does it end? When do I get appreciated? Don't get me wrong I love my kids and my husband but why am I everyone's slave? My husband and I have been together a little over 3 years and we came to the marriage with 3 children (2 girls from his previous and 1 boy from my previous) we then added one more boy. All our children are under 8 years old and though we have 3 of them part-time, I'm a full time mom. Oh, side note, we also live with my in-laws, yes they’re great but that’s 2 more mouths that I’m responsible for feeding. That’s 2 more people I need to make sure have dinner plans before I just decide I don’t want to cook for.
When Did It Change?
It was such a beautiful night two years ago, when I got an invite to meet a complete stranger. His name was Derek and his intelligence won me over and made me drive two hours just to see him face-to-face. The moment we met was such a cliche' movie feel; fireworks and fatal attraction. As he cooked us dinner, we just talked. Yes, something that simple stole my heart in complete absolution. He was the most profound human I had ever met. The room was filled with laughter and nervously sent seductive looks. I felt like I was 13 again. We had no idea what this one interaction really was, how huge it would alter our lives.
Five Ways to Surprise Your Wife!
Husbands, were you aware of the importance of September 17? If not, time to take note, because we have just passed the International Wife Appreciation Day! I hope all of you treated the lovely ladies in your life… However, if you’re like my husband and didn’t find out until the day after, time to get your diary out now. Here is a collection of ideas of how to show your wife appreciation. It's a little early but at least you will be well-prepared for International Wife Appreciation Day 2018!