Humans are social animals, and have been from the start. So, it's only natural that our society is built on interacting with each other. However, part of our social nature includes tribalism. We form cliques. We are afraid to leave established groups in favor of new people. We are afraid to leave our families even if it means sacrificing our mental or physical health.
As someone who is a staff facilitator for a Gay-Straight Alliance at a high school, I'm incredibly moved by the support Dwayne Wade has shown his child, Zaya.
Content warning: Trans issues, conflict, emotional abuse including Abandonment, deadnaming, gaslighting, and isolation.
Perspective can be quite a bitch, let me tell you.
Parents of LGBT, don't lose focus
An unedited excerpt from by upcoming book—Dysphoria Diaries—coming April 2030.
A cramped, congested room gleaming yellow with full moon luster. The antique curtains on the window across from him swung lazily in the soft breeze, and he wished he’d closed them before he’d gotten into bed. The sweet, moist Florida air that was wafting in and usually calmed his senses like an incense candle now just added to the overwhelming sensation that he was suffocating, slowly. When he was younger, this room had felt so much larger, this bed so much roomier, but now his feet nearly touched the metal frames and he could not get comfortable. He’d been tossing and turning for what felt like endless hours, listening to our grandparents’ soft snores in the other room. In his restlessness, it occurred to him that it was especially hot out, but that didn’t matter. He clutched the wool duvet up to his chin anyway and let his teeth chatter in anticipation.
Parents of LGTB, let's stick together!
As Pride Month comes to an end, it is important to remember that queer pride should not just be reserved for one month of the year. LGBTQ+ pride needs to be 24/7, 365 days a year. The acceptance of queer and trans youth is especially important in the home and between family. For some parents, the thought of having an LGBTQ+ child may be difficult to understand, for others, it never even comes to mind until their child comes out. The fact is that queer and trans youth that are accepted by their families are much less likely to commit suicide, or suffer with depression surrounding their sexuality or gender identity. In general, acceptance increases thehappiness in the home, and in the child.
It took me days to gather the strength to write this. Your words took me by surprise.
It was August 10, 2004, and my family still had lived in Parkersburg, West Virginia when my mom started to go into labor with me. Gosh, I remember her always complaining about how long she was in labor. “72 HOURS! YOU KNOW HOW LONG THAT IS, THAT'S 3 WHOLE DAYS!” But of course, I had no control over that. August 13th at 10 o’clock in the morning is when she ended up giving birth to the baby girl she had always wanted, or so she thought.
This is my first time ever publishing anything so please be kind to me.