Stubborn and stubborn child?

Stubborn children are always at the mercy of their parents and are even described as "stubborn". Indeed, stubbornness is like a seed that will take root in the child's heart, from the initial stubbornness of language to the final stubbornness of behavior, which seems to be impossible to change.

The child who is determined to die is, to put it nicely, stubborn and, to put it bluntly, does not know how to adapt. In this unpredictable life, if you do not know how to adapt, the child's future overall development can only be described as "worrying" two words. Because they do not know how to adapt, it is likely to offend others without knowing it.

The most important thing is that the child will always live in his or her world and will not want to change at all. Even if something is wrong, they will be stubborn and insist on it. The most unacceptable thing for parents is that almost all children who are stubborn are a bit headstrong and conceited.

It's good to have your ideas, but it's not good to be stubborn. It is good to adopt and implement the reasonable ideas and opinions of others who are doing something wrong, instead of pretending not to hear them. A competent leader should not only have his or her ideas but also actively listen to the opinions of others.

One clarification: Many parents misunderstand their children's stubbornness and are always confused between "persistence" and "stubbornness". Both seem to be manifestations of a child's stubbornness, but there is a fundamental difference.

The so-called persistence is to have their ideas and can provide appropriate reasons to support them; while stubbornness is to make decisions blindly, without any direction to speak of, and even some irritation. If the biggest difference between the two should be a matter of emotion.

The immediate focus, naturally, is to combine the child's daily performance and determine his nature. If they are persistent, then parents should be glad and even encourage because children who have been sticking to their dreams since childhood will not give up easily; if they are stubborn, then parents should guide them well so that they can get out of their emotional misconceptions and not make mistakes blindly.

Why will the child become stubborn? The reason is here

1, the consequences of parental education

Excessive severity will make the child produce strong rebellious psychology, and stubbornness and stubbornness are the best performance. Parents always want their children to accomplish their goals and get better grades, but never ask their children what they think. Once the expected result is not achieved, there will be all kinds of punishment.

So on, the child will slowly become stubborn, unwilling to give in to their parents, and can not do anything about it, then only energy.

2, the consequences of parental indulgence

Excessive pampering and accommodation are not good, but easy for children to develop a headstrong personality. Because they are used to enjoying it, even if it is an unreasonable requirement, parents will meet it, so it becomes self-centered.

The parents' lack of reluctance, as well as an indulgence, are the biggest mistakes on the road to education. Imagine having parents who spoil you at home, but out of the house? The child is still such a mind, others naturally will not indulge, and finally only end up without friends, and even ostracized.

3、The consequences of imitating others

Curiosity, if used in the right place, is naturally good. But if it is used in the wrong direction, it should be a different story. Children initially have no concept of stubbornness, stubbornness, and capriciousness, and learn them at a later stage because of curiosity. Seeing the children in the video, they keep learning because they get certain benefits from stubbornness.

So it's good to retain your child's curiosity, but use it in different categories. The wrong things, remember to stop your child early and never let them learn.

It seems that education has a particularly important task in a child's development and does not allow for a little deviation. The good thing is that together it is not too late, as long as the mistakes are found, there is room for salvation, it is just a matter of more effort on the part of the parents. Although the process of correcting character is a bit long, as long as you do not give up, there will be good results.

In the face of stubborn children, parents should educate them in this way

1. Teach them to distinguish between right and wrong

From now on, teach your child to know right from wrong, this is the first step out of stubbornness. Very often, most of the things that children stubbornly insist on are wrong. If you can recognize the mistake, you may change your mind and stop insisting so much.

2, adjust the educational thinking

As far as parents are concerned, education is a lifelong matter, so it is important to adjust your thinking. Not to put too much pressure on the child, and do not overly spoil and indulge, this is the smartest way to educate. With too much pressure, the child is easy to have a burden; with overindulgence, the child is easy to have no bottom line and principles.

3、Improve eyesight and pattern

You can improve your child's eyesight and open their pattern by going on trips and reading books. Only by understanding the truth that "there are mountains beyond the mountains", children can not be limited to the things in front of them. This is something that requires the company and guidance of parents.

Finally, life is a hard road, full of difficulties and setbacks. So stay away from wrong persistence and don't waste time and energy.