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Sex Ed is Still Shambles

An educator's benign attempt to enlighten pupils to the world of erotica turned sour due to the prudery of parental insecurity.

By Maura DudasPublished 4 years ago 7 min read
Sex Education Netlfix show - totally recommended

I came across this articles published by the BBC yesterday on my daily scroll on the filth that is Facebook.

'Hull school 'sorry' after pupils researched porn homework on web' - the title aptly states. Naturally, my interest is piqued. On the one hand, in the middle of a pandemic and on the brink of a financial and economic disaster this is absolutely appropriate to be reported because of the yummy-mummy outrage it must've inspired in the Northern community of Hull...Well, no. Actually on the contrary... On the other hand, if I were a 13-year old little lad starting to get into boobs, I'd say they got a happy accident for homework. If my teacher provided us with some steamy stuff I bet they could've garnered a dainty Teacher-of-the-Fucking-Century award real swiftly. Alas, they did not.

The article swiftly states that the homework was given to children aged between 11-14. Then states that apparently the answers to the questions on the task sheet were found in the text the children were given therefore there was no need for academic material to be sought on the web.

Basically one of the little wankers did a Google search and did not delete their history - or other graphic scenarios that leave a paper trail that I leave to your imagination...

Anyhow, one of them got caught and the whole thing escalated from there.

Whether you agree with my frankly liberal (normal) perspective on sex-ed or not - I don't care. Problems in the world and in society are caused by misinformation and the free flow of valuable information. This is true about sexual education, as well.

Knowing what it's like having porn be so accessible as a teenager and having a 14 year-old sister, I can tell you the more you shroud sex in mystery and the more sheltered you are about it, the more children and adolescents are going to want to know everything. If this is paired with a prude denial of it ever existing by parents and complete non-disclosure on their part it can lead to some not very well-adjusted children. And some misled chumps who think sex should be like porn or that porn is what actual sex is. Which it isn't.

So let me break down everything that's wrong with this article and why it is in the way of the sexual liberation of your children.

Age group:

They're not exactly showing penises and vaginas to pre-school children. What struck me in particular is that this is exactly the age group where girls start their cycles. Boys have their first wet-dream a little later but 14 is still brushing the appropriate range. Starting sex-ed early should never be a problem. I remember ten year-old me looking at porn because I was interested in what happens after the lady and the dude kiss in Hollywood movies and the screen cuts to black. And no, those kinds of movies weren't going to show it to me.

If left to their own devices children will go and explore and might gather some misinformation which they do not have an opportunity to discuss with anyone. It will not be corrected until it's much too late. In my opinion, this breeds 18 year-olds who last 30 seconds and think they're the king of the world for lasting even that long for your sake. We have far too few a orgasms as a gender so for that alone, if for nothing else, I stand by thorough tours in the world of actual erotica with an educational purpose.

Age-appropriate questions:

While I can say textbook hardcore porn might not be for the eyes of an 11 year-old, the concept as such is harmless if well communicated. The questions weren't about golden showers, vore and lady-boys fisting each other. So I do not exactly get the immense outrage. I get it that these good Christians would only rather they children didn't even kiss until marriage but the missionary is not everyone's cup of the and definitely not all the time... Some perspectives ought to be broadened.

I will for fairness' sake show you the image they have featured with the most scandalous survey towards these innocent infants.

I believe there's a 'define LGBTQ' at the top we can barely make out.

As I said - relatively harmless.

I do not know why parents feel that the children who watch Jake and Logan Paul and alike could be traumatised by the simple knowledge of the concept of soft porn. Now, the problem would've occurred if said teacher a Mr. Bell have gone out of his way to give some imaginative illustrations of these concepts to the children themselves. Knowing any of this is not going to send your child int Satan's arms. But god forbid they'd be provided a little more knowledge. The fact that these parents have expressed their malcontent with these questions is the results of the well-known phenomena of 'I know better what's best for my child, even if I am in no way equipped in this situaton' and that parents do not trust their children and themselves more importantly. Them vehemently declaring that this is not appropriate might stem from their own inability to explain these concepts. An insecurity that they mask by trying to 'shelter' their offspring from information they do not understand themselves fully enough to be able to relay to others.

The biggest issue with the case is this adamant drive to keep children as ignorant for as long as they can be to the point where the levels of lack of know-how might be dangerous. This brings to mind that scene in Friends where Monica and Chandler are adopting a baby from a plain country-girl, played by Ana Faris, and ask her about the identity of the father. She reveals that she's not quite sure as there are two candidates - one of which is a guy who killed someone with a shovel. After Monica takes Ana's character on a trip do they only figure out that what the now pregnant girl did with Shovelly-Joe does not lead to conception. I know. It's a contrived example. But trust me, you can only see so many young girls with a buggy until you start questioning what they're doing to enlighten the youth about sex and how effective it is.

'Children should just stick with Tik-Tok and make-up':

What I especially adore about this case is that although parents were said to be primarily aghast at the homework the only person's opinion they featured was that of a concerned brother who's 13 year-old little sister should just stay with what she knows and what is safe for her to know.

Which just so happen to be Tik-Tok and make-up, apparently. I feel old just thinking about how when I was 14 we were definitely not experts at make-up nor was it one of the acceptable pastimes or hobbies for a young girl to have...

This again, comes down to the fact that parents and apparently siblings now try to make up for their incompetence by trying to limit their children in knowing too much or knowing more than they do. If anything an attempt from the teaching-body to de-stigmatise porn and sex to such a young age group, that are not sexually active yet but will very soon be should be applauded. Mr. Bell, dude - hats off to you, my friend. Sorry, the world shat on your benign attempt to liberalise a bunch of Northeners. It was good effort.

It is beyond me why in the time of the LGBTQ movement and when the world should be more accepting than ever having a healthy, adult conversation about the bees and the flowers is still in kids' shoes. The prudery obviously stems from blinkered-on traditionalism and parental insecurity about the subject matter. However children will find out in their own way about these concepts. I would presume as a responsible parent you would like your child to be informed about these in a safe environment where they will be given accurate information, will not be humiliated, embarrassed or ridiculed for their curiosity and their questions will be answered with the purpose of expanding their knowledge not with the aim to corrupt. And if you don't, maybe you should consider changing your parenting style a little...

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About the Creator

Maura Dudas

Studying Psychology, getting angry about issues on the web, addressing social conundrums concerning humans that surround me. And just pointing out my subjective majestic opinion. :) Film buff, artsy, reader - I do art too @morcika96

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