Parenting tips

When it comes to parenting, I think children's education, the most important is "three sixty-nine". One is a good physical foundation. The other is emotional stability. First of all, let him feel love and warmth. Three to six years old, is a critical period for character development, to primary school, the basic character has taken shape; Between the ages of six and nine, the first few years of primary school, focus on the development of behavioral habits, especially good study habits. These things from the ribs you help him support in place, I think the child's base even if played well. As LONG as the child's mood is stable, good character, ONESELF HAVE a SET OF RELATIVELY good behavior habits, behind you will worry a lot less, because he has been on the track. We as parents, the most to worry about and the most worth worrying about is so many years, after you worry about and then discipline, most of them are too late.

The timing of your education is important, as is the manner of your education. I think parents should have the education, is the word and example, kindness and influence. Plain English is to see how you teach, more see how you do, you are the child's best teacher; At the same time, grace is your kindness, grace can have authority, is you have to pay energy education, your words he will listen to. Wei is dignified, can not be too indulgent. Most afraid of only "boon" or only "wei", the child will not listen to you.

So our parenting focus, one is the cultivation of character, one is the cultivation of habits, personal experience:

First of all, living habits, let him do more, but also as far as possible to let him help others do things. On the one hand, it is to exercise his self-care ability, on the other hand, he has other people in mind, not selfish. Their generation of children, can eat bitter very limited. If you do things for them in your daily life, you're depriving them of the opportunity to grow.

Take our usual life for example, I teach children, eat easy to drop slag food, the bottom to pad a piece of paper towel or plate pad, if dropped on the ground, their own broom swept into the garbage basket, their own business. Ordinary cooking time, also will let him dozen a hand to help beat an egg OF WHAT, all these are closely related to his life, he should participate in! Or drive home on a rainy day, I will give him a rag, let him help me wipe the car, can say that as long as it is a rainy day, he will take the initiative to give me to wipe the car, and wipe very seriously. Subjectively he finds it interesting, objectively he participates in the life of the family and contributes his own strength as a member. In terms of parent-child relationships and personality development, I think it's good for both of us to let our kids do what they can.

Secondly, in the study habits, currently adhere to the better, that is, reading before going to bed at night, generally half an hour to an hour. At first, children are more interested in books, willing to read, of course, we are also willing to accompany to talk, slowly develop the habit of reading. Sometimes when I was tired, I would let him tell me stories. Although I did not know the words, my ability to read pictures and speak was much longer, and I could even guess and make up a puzzle, which benefited my language expression ability.

Another habit that I think is very important is the cultivation of communication habits. We usually attach great importance to children's education and learning, but in the current trend of social development, more important than learning or achievement, is the ability to perceive happiness. When the environment is good and the pressure is great, it can be said that the easier it is to satisfy the desire of eating physically, the more difficult it is to achieve the satisfaction and balance psychologically. A person has no sense of happiness, he has more will not feel happy. Good communication skills are the foundation of a healthy parent-child relationship, the link between you and society, and the key to your happiness. Because you can express, you can communicate!

One of the best habits I've kept with my kids so far is to talk every night when the lights are off. It sounds simple, just talk about what happened during the day. What are your happy things today, what are your unhappy things, why, do you have any new friends, what do you like about him, etc. This chat at the most superficial level can let you know the state of the child in school, more importantly, let him learn to express his mood, help him understand his mood, he encountered problems, and even value orientation! Crucially, he has a problem, he will tell you, the parent-child relationship you can keep a good habit, close to the teen years, you'll be a lot less trouble because you have a communication channels, far said the most important thing for a family play ribs or parent-child relationship, there's not a good parent-child relationship, even if he established you support us, This family is divided because people are divided.

In daily communication, I will talk about two feelings I learned. One is the starting point of communication, the other is communication skills. Us writer long, often as a power and command to children make a request, because we all know, what is the best to him what is right, also tend to be clear, this time we talk about communication, we said the communication is not successful, he would not listen to me, that he is right, because it's not communicate, is unilateral commands and demands, The basis of communication is equality and respect. It is to respect his current cognition, treat him equally, and give him the opportunity to try and make mistakes. When we make mistakes, we can summarize our experiences and lessons together. Only in this way can we pass the "gap", which is called communication. Try to understand your child's ideas from their point of view. Their ideas are less complex but require a lot of patience to listen. In terms of communication skills, for both children and adults, describe his behavior, how it makes you feel, and even how it affects you, so that he can judge whether his behavior is appropriate or not. No one is born willing to listen to blame. It is almost an instinct to avoid denial.

Finally, in the cultivation of the child's character, I always think relatively successful, is that he has a great passion for people and things. I LIKE to BE WITH PEOPLE and make friends. I am patient and take NO trouble in doing things. I am always interested in new things and willing to explore. I can't accompany him for a lifetime, so I hope his enthusiasm can accompany him through the trenches of life. May he never be afraid of difficulties and smile at life. When it comes to character, nature is part of it, but nurture also plays a big role. I think what we should do is to accompany him more, to give him enough security; Encourage him more, give him confidence so that he has courage; Take him out to see more, let him know how big the world is, stimulate his enthusiasm and vitality; Give him more chances to try. Just let him do what he wants. It doesn't matter if he is wrong or bad.

He always said he loved us so much, and I guess only love can bring love. Only when he has experienced tenderness can he treat the world gently.

May the world be kind to these children, and may our love for each other be lived up to.