Parenting is NOT a right, it's a privilege.

A child is not right.

Parenting is NOT a right, it's a privilege.
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Unpopular opinion:

No one has the RIGHT to be a parent or to see a child just because they donated an egg or sperm. Being a PARENT is a PRIVILEGE not a RIGHT!! Just because someone can PHYSICALLY have/create a child does NOT mean they have a right to that child. I'm not talking legally here, although I am surprised this hasn't been addressed in light of all the slavery talk, but that is a topic for another post. There are so many people who should NEVER have had children at all but should definitely not be allowed near children much less raise them.

Children don't ask to be born. They are created without a choice. They can't choose their parents and they certainly wouldn't CHOOSE to be abused, neglected or abandoned by one or both parents. People who keep children they birthed for the soul purpose of using them to hurt another person are sick & demented and don't have the RIGHT to do that because, bottom line...that is child abuse. Using a child to hurt an adult is child abuse. When a bitter woman keeps her child from a loving (keyword) father just for the purpose of hurting him, for whatever reason she has, is a child abuser. An angry man who chooses to not see his children because for what reason HE has or takes them away from their mom just to hurt her, he is a child abuser.

I'm going to take this one level deeper and say that any parent who teaches their child to hate anyone because of the color of their skin, their gender, their sexual preference or any other ignorant reason, is a child abuser.

A child flourishes with 3 things...LOVE, food and shelter. "And the greatest of these is Love". Nope, I'm not going to get all religious on you. I don't care if you believe in God, Allah, Buddah or sunshine & rainbows & pretty pink ponies, LOVE is what matters. You can give a child food, shelter and clothing and they will still fail to thrive without love.

If you can look at your child, this wondrous, imaginative, miracle and feel like it is ok to hurt him/her or to use them as a pawn to hurt someone are not fit to be a parent. If you can treat one child with love and kindness and another with contempt and disdain, you are not fit to be a parent to either one.

Until such day that a child's quality of life is more important than money, the world will not change. Until such day that our children are taught to go against everything in their spirit and hate others, the world will not change. Until such day that people do not mistreat those who cannot speak up for themselves, Until such time that having children is seen as the privilege that it is and not a 'right', the world will not change. If we could refocus all this racial, political hate into teaching our children how to love and to be kind...the world WILL change.

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