Not letting your child cry when he wants to is actually a disservice

When a baby croaks, the loud cry announces that the TA is about to start its life journey, but also gives parents a signal to love and accompany the TA more.

However, only after parents start to take care of their babies can they realize that the sound of a child's cry seems to be a "multi-life chain call", as long as they hear the sound of a child's cry, their hearts get tight.

The baby's crying is understandable, after all, can not speak, only through this way to express their needs, so the cry will also make parents more heartbroken.

But as the child grows up, when the parents can understand, if the child still often cries, it will inevitably make parents feel anxious.

The neighbor across the street has a five-year-old girl who looks very cute, especially with big, watery eyes, like a delicate doll.

However, from time to time, the girl Lele's crying could be heard coming from the neighbor's house, followed by the sound of reprimand from Lele's mother.

"What are you crying for? You only know how to cry! You're like a crybaby all day long, you're so annoying!"

The next thing I knew, I could hear Lele's cries diminishing, and I knew that once again, Lele's mother's intimidation and scolding had "won", but was this "winning" really the right way to teach?

As expected, I saw Lele and her mother returning from grocery shopping when I went downstairs for a walk some time ago, and I couldn't help but feel a little distressed to see Lele, who was deliberately keeping her distance from her mother, so I took the initiative to say hello to her.

But Lele was a bit sullen and seeing that Lele didn't greet me, Lele's mother also felt a bit embarrassed and said, "This child is a waste, how old she is and still shy!"

I shook my head to show Lele's mother that it was okay, then chatted with her for a few minutes, and learned from her words that recently Lele did not cry much, but the distance from his mother had also increased significantly. It is a harm to not let a child cry when he wants to.

What are the dangers of stopping a child from crying?

There is no doubt that what Lele's mother did was not right, but we can all understand how she felt. Taking care of a child is a laborious task, and if a child cries a lot, parents can easily lose control of their emotions.

Especially some parents who are raising sons feel that boys need to develop manhood from a young age, otherwise always crying and crying looks petty.

When the child cries, parents do not ask questions, directly and rudely stop the child crying to deprive the child of the right to vent negative emotions, and these negative emotions long-term backlog in the heart will only make the child's mental health problems.

In addition, parents do not respect the child's emotional expression, which will also make the child distance themself from parents, especially after entering adolescence or a rebellious period, more will refuse to communicate with parents.

So not crying can be a disservice to a child, which smart parents usually do.

How should parents respond properly when their children cry?

1. face the child's tears

When a child cries, most parents feel upset mainly because they feel powerless about their incompetence because they will feel that it is their failure to take care of their children and not do it perfectly enough to make them cry.

Such parents are not facing their children's tears, children are bound to cry for a reason, parents should first put their minds at ease, do not be too obsessed with a certain point, so they will not be so sensitive to their children's crying.

2. Listen more

If you want to have a close parent-child relationship, then parents must learn to listen and giving their children an "exclusive ear" is necessary.

Especially when the child expresses negative emotions, first do not rush to stop the child's crying behavior, but find out why the child is crying, and encourage the child to say why.

In the process of parental listening, the child can feel his or her unhappiness, his or her sadness is understood and recognized by the parents, and will also be faster to calm down.

Through this interactive process, the parent-child relationship between parents and children will also be improved and enhanced, which will help parents understand their children's inner thoughts.

3. Positive guidance

People have emotions, and so do children, such as conflicts with partners, physical discomfort, or learning difficulties, and children who are not very strong psychologically will cry about it.

This time, parents should learn to be positive to guide the child to vent negative emotions and to let children understand that crying does not solve any problems, but will make the problem worse.

At the same time, parents may want to give their children advice, such as encouraging them to reconcile with friends or find better study skills to improve academic performance, etc.

When the child realizes that it is more meaningful to try to solve the problem than to cry, he or she will develop a stronger heart and will not cry easily.

What parents need to do is not to stop all the seemingly negative phenomena, but to understand the child's heart through the phenomena so that they can find better ways to deal with them.