Parenting Wars
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Moms at Home

by Kacy Levy 2 years ago in advice

Stay-at-Home Mothers

Moms at Home

Hi, nice to meet you all. I’m Kacy, you can call me Kace. Anyway, let’s jump right into it. Where are all my stay-at-home moms? Well, this message today is for you. I have been staying at home for a year now and let me tell you it feels like a full-time job. I love being able to do such a thing as spend so much quality time with my little one, but Mommy finds the need to get out! Sometimes, I feel like I’m going crazy. I get out of the house don’t get me wrong, but it’s such a task, right? When I’m getting her dressed then feed her and I’m trying to get dressed by the time I’m done, I feel like I have to start all over again because she needs to be changed or she gets something on my clothes, etc. Not complaining, just want you ladies to feel like someone can relate and to let you know I feel you! Your friends may not have kids or may not be married, so most of the time they don’t understand your situation, but I, my friend do.

Who's been on the internet trying to find a hobby or learning a new skill to try and bring in some income? I have! Who has tried to clean her house but feels like it’s never-ending? Me! Who has “people” telling you that you need to make a schedule so you can do it all? I do! Let me give you some advice, mothers, you don’t have to do it all! Take your time and do things your own way!

I often find myself comparing myself to other mothers and other women on Instagram who look like they are just superwomen. Listen! Stop comparing yourself to these people. I found myself getting depressed because I thought I was fat, I couldn’t go out with my friends as often, or I couldn’t just be this selfish person I was before. Most of the time, I’m on social media and I see women with children having fun, and I’m thinking where are their kids? I don’t have the luxury of having someone take my kid for a couple of hours so I can just have a moment. My family lives in another state. I had to realize I could not be selfish anymore. I had to realize, "Girl, you had a baby and your body is different from everybody else’s." I also had to tell myself, "You have your own purpose. Stop looking to be like others."

This message is really to encourage women with kids to follow your heart. You have to know you are a great parent and all you are doing is for a purpose bigger than yourself. Stay motivated and encouraged. Get off social media and give yourself a pat on the back. You’re doing great. This entire article is to encourage and know if you need to talk to someone there are people who can relate to you. Depression is real, especially in young mothers who stay at home. Well, I’m getting kind of chatty so I’ll cut it short, but just know ladies, and men if it applies, you are not alone. I feel you, I can relate, and you are amazing just the way you are. I’ll be writing on various topics not just kid and mom topics. I hope that you just keep me in your mind for good advice and good reads. I promise I won’t disappoint and if you ever have any questions, just let me know. Talk to you all soon, loves.

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Kacy Levy

30 years young mom & wife

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