Marriage how to manage just won't tired

Marital happiness is managed, as if it were a business. Marriage was originally an empty box. What you want to take out and how much you want to take out depends on what and how much you have put into it. "Happiness" in marriage cannot be supported by love alone, such marriage is too thin. So, how to manage marriage just won't feel tired, just can feel happy?

1. Learn to face bottlenecks

Life has ups and downs, so does marriage. It is impossible to live every day as sweet as when you are in love. Every marriage will encounter bottleneck period. Just the way to deal with the time is different, when your marriage encountered bottleneck, do not escape and cover up, directly face, so as to fundamentally solve the problem.

Many married people in the marriage bottleneck, always escape to solve the way. Two complete strangers before, because love together, relative to the life of the friction is inevitable, will appear all sorts of problems, the outbreak of all kinds of contradictions, but there would be no problem to solve, can solve the contradiction is not contradictory, face to face with these problems and contradictions, solve two people openly, rather than the existing problem is escape, Then the problem just keeps piling up and snowballing. When you can't take it anymore, your marriage is in crisis.

Complain less, more tolerance

Love can be romantic without considering reality, but after marriage began to worry about life, the trivial things in life will make everyone complain. In many families, especially after having children, men are generally the breadwinner and women are the breadwinner. Men are the breadwinners and women are the parents. If a man struggles outside, he will inevitably suffer and feel tired. If he has to face his wife's complaints at home, would you be happy if he were you? Similarly, it is not easy to take care of children and do housework at the same time, and it is unacceptable for any woman to bear the cold eye of her husband as a result of her hard work.

Complain a lot, the feeling will be more and more weak. Complain less and praise more to promote marital harmony.

3. Put yourself in others' shoes

Marriage is the binding of two people who love each other. From then on, you are family. This means that your world is no longer just your world. Left no good coordination occasionally occur some small friction, and those are two real big living, two personal life together is necessary there will be a small friction, this time to learn the perspective-taking, sometimes two bitter rivals, clashing frequently lips gun heated dispute, salivate in criticizing each other, not even with malicious words to attack each other, it is totally unnecessary. Better to have done it than regret it later.

Bestie and her husband have always been very good feelings, they have been married for so many years, I have never seen them fight and blush. I didn't expect that I poured out my envy to my bestie but she laughed. She said that every couple doesn't fight, and we fight too, but we always settle it in a special way. It turns out that every time my bestie and her husband quarreled, they would "swap places and fight".

People in anger, can not distinguish their own words caused harm to each other, bestie and her husband quarrel for many times found that this is not good, no matter how good feelings will be noisy, so they agreed, each quarrel to take the words of the other party to attack each other, the result did not speak two sentences feel noisy.

4. Don't doubt each other easily

The most important thing in interpersonal communication is mutual trust, not casually suspicion of others, especially feelings. The most important thing between husband and wife is mutual trust, should not easily doubt each other, once mixed with doubt in marriage, then this relationship is also cast the shadow of distrust. All day suspicious, suspicious of their lover is not having an affair, is not planning to divide up their property, this kind of marriage is doomed to failure, not happy, because her suspicion will eventually beat all love.

Happiness is not so granted, happiness is not easy to get. Since two people come together because they love each other, they should believe in each other's love for themselves, and have confidence in themselves and their lovers. To doubt someone without evidence is not only to doubt the love, but also in another way can indicate that one's heart has already lost love for the other person.

5. Share responsibility

Since we choose to live together and treat each other as our lifelong partner, we should not only share happiness, but also share difficulties. There is a question of responsibility. The responsibility in marriage is not only for the current events, but also in the ordinary course of life.

Take housework for example, two people have their own work, so the couple should take care of their own career at the same time to share the housework, to create a warm home for each other, rather than one person alone, the husband should not blindly put the responsibility of cleaning to his wife, he is alone. Men and women in happy marriages are more secure when they share household responsibilities, or when they create a plan to share their share of household chores.

In the family affairs, such as some debt, housing and so on, need the joint efforts of both sides, husband and wife are the same birds in the forest, should not fly separately when the great difficulty, know how to support each other, sharing responsibility is the right way to manage marriage.